Just vegging til the Giants game starts...

[ysabella_dolfin]

Bri and I are hanging out answering various correspondance next to each other on our side by side computers. He's in deep conversation with several lovely female friends of ours and I have been chatting on and off with my daughter all morning... it's one of those philosophical "what is life all about" kind of mornings (Rat and Stacey came by

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[anthraxia]

People invest so much into relationships; I sometimes think they stay in bad ones simply because to walk away is to wipe all that emotional investment from the slate. Look at how hard some people struggle to accept that their business, or their shares, or their falling down 'fixer-upper' house, is going down the toilet, throwing more and more money into the pit, because they can't let go of the dream that they've invested so much into.
Relationships are the same - to walk away feels like emotional bankruptcy.
In addition, ultimately we are creatures of habit. If you went straight from 'fantastic new relationship' to 'cruddy multiple-year relationship' in, say, two months, people would probably simply walk away, but the damage is done in increments, little by little, and we get used to it. But we can't walk away, because "it can be so good!" - even if it hasn't been for years.

[helblonde]

In bidness, it's called a sunk cost. You keep spending money on a flub in the hopes of making it profitable, because otherwise you'll have wasted all that money. Unfortunately, most of the time that means wasting even more money.

Staying in a bad relationship is the equivalent to a sunk cost. "Oh, I've spend so much time with him, we can't break up now because [rationalization]."

Just break it off already! You won't find a good one if you're with a bad one (and if you do, you won't be available).

I have to object to the notion that life is crap after a certain point. Life is pretty good :)

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[sihirous]

Hi there, awesome site. I thought the topics you posted on were very interesting

[azureavian]

No, seriously that's what I ended up with before B. And after B left, that's what got me to thinking, how on earth did I end up wasting my life worrying about something stable when I've never had such a thing.

People are too used to looking for stability and they sink their entire beings into relationships that aren't worth the tears you cry for them. That's why I'm gonna play around a little and teach myself better. =)