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[yavieriel]

So last night my mom and I watched Inception.  She was, disappointingly, not terribly impressed by it.  In part it was that she doesn't have much taste for formalism, especially of the post-modernist variety - she likes chick flicks and Lifetime movies and things about normal people told in straightforward ways

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[yeah_itsme]

I don't remember many details about that movie, but I know where you're coming from about family. My family doesn't understand or care about my interests either, and sometimes that makes me sad. It's a good thing I like school and learning, or my mom would know even less about me, and her family (who never went to college) doesn't even understand that much, about either her or me. She makes decisions that I consider crazy, and vice versa. Nevertheless I'm closer to her than I used to be, when I was too busy to talk to any of my family members and when my parents were trying to keep their problems/opinions from us kids.

Basically, family is just a way we learn to live with people who are incredibly different from us. It's important, but yes, it gets exhausting after a while. I wish you were in a place where there were more potential friends around to share your interests with...that's what I yearned for when I was living at home last year, and it's a relief not to wish one person could be everything.

[yavieriel]

You've pretty much nailed it spot-on. My mom and I do have enough in common that I enjoy spending time with her, and ditto for my dad. And we're definitely closer these days in some ways, just because I'm older and my parents feel like they can talk with me about things in their lives that they (quite reasonably) wouldn't have when I was younger. Also now that I'm substituting for the schools and working on my masters in teaching, we can talk about that.

Honestly I'd be pretty happy if I just had my own apartment and someone to share it with. More people to share my interests with is exactly what I'm missing - and unfortunately I'm kind of bad at long-distance relationships and worse at online-only relationships. People in Oxford that I haven't seen since fall, I'm forgetting what they sound like.

Semi-related, I'm keeping my fingers crossed that I might be able to come up to Cinci next weekend. If life does not manage to screw this up too, would you be available for hanging out at some point?

[yeah_itsme]

I'm going to be visiting a graduate program in New York next weekend from thursday through early Monday morning, so it looks like we'll miss each other yet again! Otherwise I totally would.

[yavieriel]

Awww, dammit. Good luck with the grad school search, I saw you got accepted at - Kent, if I remember right? I'm glad it seems to be going reasonably well.

Oh well, this coming quarter all my classes are online and hopefully I will not have another crazy anal retentive prof who assigns so much homework she can't even find time to grade it all, (seriously) so I will be able to visit more and hopefully catch you some other time.