I'm very much the same way and fashion sense aside I generally can shop in stores like that anyway because they don't tend to cater to my size. I know I'm over-weight but does that really mean I have to buy ugly clothes...but that is a rant for another time.
I've gotten better about wearing make-up and things but I probably don't put it on "right" (if there is a right way) and half the time I don't do it anyway. I used to be horribly insecure about my appearance and weight, and while the second one still causes me grief at times in terms of self-esteem I feel I've gotten better at it.
I just wish girls like us could feel better about NOT being fashionitas since it seems like media/society sets this sort of thing as the norm. Girls like us who would frankly just be happy in jeans and a shirt usually get the short end of the stick.
I know there's an art to makeup, with the blending the different colors of eyeshadow and whatnot...I don't do it. Don't know how, don't particularly care. It's another thing that the high-fashion world specializes in that I very simply do not.
Honestly, I feel like getting comfortable in your own skin is what's more importantly and, for all that, is the much tougher thing to do. Part of that may well be realizing that the fashionista is oftentimes just the advertisement hanging on the wall. People are still pretty hung up on it (yohoho), but the smart ones know that all the fashion in the world doesn't do a thing if the person wearing it is a vapid moron. Those who mind don't matter and all that.
Cato's is my store of choice actually |D but I've gotten some nice stuff from Kohl's too.
Hahaha, yeah there's an art. Me? I just slap on foundation and maybe eyeshadow and mascara...but obviously no blending or anything.
I think that's what has helped me a lot in terms of my self-image or whatever. I'm a lot more comfortable with my appearance than I used to be...but I think that's part of growing out of that teenage year stuff.
Banana Republic and Charlotte Russe have hideously ugly clothes for sale right now anyway. You wouldn't have found much there, unless the stores were much bigger than the ones I've gone to recently. /aside
If it's not a priority and you're happy, then just keep saving up the money for something else. I've had an older sister who's instilled the knowledge in me since a young age, so I've always seen clothes as a means to enjoy myself, but unless you have that kind of mindset or have been properly brainwashed it's just silly to worry over it. It's great that you don't have expensive taste. Nothing sucks more than picking out something you like and being unconsciously aware that it's likely the most expensive item in the entire store. Not that I've had this issue with almost anything I truly wanted.
You know, after we hit up bebe, I just kind of gave up. Never made it to Banana Republic or anything. |D
Most of this has been my mindset of "I'm not worrying about it" clashing with society's advertising barrage of "why aren't you worrying about it?!" Yes, interrobang and everything. Society is insane. Deciding that, for the most part, I don't really care about society's overwhelmingly loud opinion has really helped with that.
I don't think I could have expensive taste if I tried - given how quickly I go into sticker shock and the fact that I need to talk myself into most of my purchases, I'd never survive.
On a completely different note, that icon. What. XD
kjkhj BWAHAHA BEBE. Oh god, they're just as bad as CR right now. Sequins and sparkles and the most hideous neon colors to grace the world right now=they must have been high ordering those designs. I went in, saw those clothes, and went right back out. There might've been a proper hairflip as well.
Having it sink in yesterday will probably help a lot for future grapples. I tend to have the same problems with a lot of tenets of society and I'm still figuring out how to get around them. Right now I'm particularly pissed off at the structuring of the education system and how I'll have to continue to support it for my own needs. You know, all that good stuff.
If you let me wander around and pick out whatever I want I will find the most expensive item of whatever it is I'm looking for. I try to be self-disciplined about it, but it's not at all fun to fall in love with something and then see the price. I still want that figurine of the little Pegasus babies from Fantasia I saw in Cali Adventure, damn it.
I don't really expect there to be future grapples; I shop at Kohl's and other places where I know the layout and product. If I ever get pressured to be the Girl Your Girl Could Look Like again, I'll come back to this entry. As for the education system: learn the rules, then break them?
Ooh. Yeah, I can imagine it isn't. Still, pegasus babies! ;o;
I'm curious to know what word and oh for goodness' sakes. XD Then again, I can't criticize, what with some of my icons. /points up
I'm so lame. Most of my clothes come from Walmart. :x Cause, yeah, I can't fathom paying more than $20 for anything, but like... a dress maybe. Sometimes I even go to Value Village. Used clothes, WHOOO! \o/
If I want something nice, I get it off the clearance rack at Mark's Work Warehouse. lol Canadian store so you wouldn't know it, but s'bit nicer than the name makes it sound, actually. XD
But yeah. I always feel SO awkward walking into most clothing stores in the mall. >_<;
Oh, I have no problem getting stuff from Walmart. I find less and less there I can wear as I get older, but every once in a while there's something that works for me. Seriously, why pay a small fortune for clothes with a specific name on them when you can find ones just as functional and cute elsewhere for a fraction of the cost?
I think a lot of people feel awkward walking past those stores, or in them. They certainly cater to a specific niche.
And despite all this, I still watch Project Runway. Huh. XD
I only buy things from the more expensive stores on ridiculous sales or good prices at the outlets. I think that on a good day you can find some nice things very cheaply at Gap or H&M. All my expensive clothes are hand me downs, gifts, or sample garments from a brand owned by the company that also owns the brand for which a family friend does sweater designs. (I get what doesn't fit or isn't wanted by the 3 or 4 people who get access to them before I do.) Mostly I wear jeans I bought on sale for 12 or 13 dollars at Old Navy. And they look classier on me than anything I've bought for more.
I don't wear makeup AT ALL. Haven't touched it in at least a year and a half. I would wear lipstick, but it all contains skin irritants, so I've given up on it.
Kohls clearance racks are a wonderful thing, and it's silly to feel like you have to pay a ton of money for your clothes to look professional and/or pretty.
Finally, you're quite lovely in general, you don't NEED all those things to make you gorgeous. ♥
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I've gotten better about wearing make-up and things but I probably don't put it on "right" (if there is a right way) and half the time I don't do it anyway. I used to be horribly insecure about my appearance and weight, and while the second one still causes me grief at times in terms of self-esteem I feel I've gotten better at it.
I just wish girls like us could feel better about NOT being fashionitas since it seems like media/society sets this sort of thing as the norm. Girls like us who would frankly just be happy in jeans and a shirt usually get the short end of the stick.
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I know there's an art to makeup, with the blending the different colors of eyeshadow and whatnot...I don't do it. Don't know how, don't particularly care. It's another thing that the high-fashion world specializes in that I very simply do not.
Honestly, I feel like getting comfortable in your own skin is what's more importantly and, for all that, is the much tougher thing to do. Part of that may well be realizing that the fashionista is oftentimes just the advertisement hanging on the wall. People are still pretty hung up on it (yohoho), but the smart ones know that all the fashion in the world doesn't do a thing if the person wearing it is a vapid moron. Those who mind don't matter and all that.
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Hahaha, yeah there's an art. Me? I just slap on foundation and maybe eyeshadow and mascara...but obviously no blending or anything.
I think that's what has helped me a lot in terms of my self-image or whatever. I'm a lot more comfortable with my appearance than I used to be...but I think that's part of growing out of that teenage year stuff.
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That is exactly what I do, actually. I have powder foundation and it is possibly the best thing ever.
As long as you have your priorities straight. :|b And man, teenage years are absolutely awful in terms of self-image. Just. Man.
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If it's not a priority and you're happy, then just keep saving up the money for something else. I've had an older sister who's instilled the knowledge in me since a young age, so I've always seen clothes as a means to enjoy myself, but unless you have that kind of mindset or have been properly brainwashed it's just silly to worry over it. It's great that you don't have expensive taste. Nothing sucks more than picking out something you like and being unconsciously aware that it's likely the most expensive item in the entire store. Not that I've had this issue with almost anything I truly wanted.
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Most of this has been my mindset of "I'm not worrying about it" clashing with society's advertising barrage of "why aren't you worrying about it?!" Yes, interrobang and everything. Society is insane. Deciding that, for the most part, I don't really care about society's overwhelmingly loud opinion has really helped with that.
I don't think I could have expensive taste if I tried - given how quickly I go into sticker shock and the fact that I need to talk myself into most of my purchases, I'd never survive.
On a completely different note, that icon. What. XD
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Having it sink in yesterday will probably help a lot for future grapples. I tend to have the same problems with a lot of tenets of society and I'm still figuring out how to get around them. Right now I'm particularly pissed off at the structuring of the education system and how I'll have to continue to support it for my own needs. You know, all that good stuff.
If you let me wander around and pick out whatever I want I will find the most expensive item of whatever it is I'm looking for. I try to be self-disciplined about it, but it's not at all fun to fall in love with something and then see the price. I still want that figurine of the little Pegasus babies from Fantasia I saw in Cali Adventure, damn it.
I call it 'the proof of why I ( ... )
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Ooh. Yeah, I can imagine it isn't. Still, pegasus babies! ;o;
I'm curious to know what word and oh for goodness' sakes. XD Then again, I can't criticize, what with some of my icons. /points up
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Please share this epiphany with the rest of the female population.
You will be making the world a much better place.
Sincerely,
Kevin
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Seeing as I only just came to it yesterday, that will take some time.
I'll do my best.
Sincerely,
Kia
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Looks like you've got your work cut out for you, then.
Good luck.
Sincerely,
Kevin
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I'm so lame. Most of my clothes come from Walmart. :x Cause, yeah, I can't fathom paying more than $20 for anything, but like... a dress maybe. Sometimes I even go to Value Village. Used clothes, WHOOO! \o/
If I want something nice, I get it off the clearance rack at Mark's Work Warehouse. lol Canadian store so you wouldn't know it, but s'bit nicer than the name makes it sound, actually. XD
But yeah. I always feel SO awkward walking into most clothing stores in the mall. >_<;
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I think a lot of people feel awkward walking past those stores, or in them. They certainly cater to a specific niche.
And despite all this, I still watch Project Runway. Huh. XD
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I don't wear makeup AT ALL. Haven't touched it in at least a year and a half. I would wear lipstick, but it all contains skin irritants, so I've given up on it.
Kohls clearance racks are a wonderful thing, and it's silly to feel like you have to pay a ton of money for your clothes to look professional and/or pretty.
Finally, you're quite lovely in general, you don't NEED all those things to make you gorgeous. ♥
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