Re: Excuse me, butwytchcroftAugust 25 2008, 16:45:36 UTC
When people NEED it can distort their view of people and things.
It's easy to be disppointed by someone (or somethign) when they fail to live up to what you project onto them - or when they fail to fufil some particular need.
You lose sight of who they really are.
When you don't NEED from a person you are free to delight in the sheer fact of their existence.
The people i LOVE just SHINE. They are all lights in the world that make this frakking place better.
I don't need them to be right here, right now, proving anything to me. I KNOW they rule!:) All they need to do is keep being alive.
And when you are free of need for others you can slowly learn to take some sort of pleasure in the fact of your OWN existence.
Re: Excuse me, butwytchcroftAugust 25 2008, 17:23:13 UTC
Also, a lot of people can have NEEDS which are actually negative - people look to lose themselves in someone else - or as a part of destructive addiction etc.
Needs can lead to patterned relationships (sigh, we alll know that one) : 'Why am i always falling for...' , 'how come i only seem to attract the...'
It can take a long lifetime to unpick a lot of them knots...
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It's easy to be disppointed by someone (or somethign) when they fail to live up to what you project onto them - or when they fail to fufil some particular need.
You lose sight of who they really are.
When you don't NEED from a person you are free to delight in the sheer fact of their existence.
The people i LOVE just SHINE. They are all lights in the world that make this frakking place better.
I don't need them to be right here, right now, proving anything to me.
I KNOW they rule!:)
All they need to do is keep being alive.
And when you are free of need for others you can slowly learn to take some sort of pleasure in the fact of your OWN existence.
That's the really tough part...
(Hope thaht made some kinda sense!)
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or as a part of destructive addiction etc.
Needs can lead to patterned relationships
(sigh, we alll know that one) :
'Why am i always falling for...' , 'how come i only seem to attract the...'
It can take a long lifetime to unpick a lot of them knots...
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