am i toxic?

[wtbrosie]

A few months back one of my friends joked... well doesn't everyone gain weight and become depressed when they date you. I know it was all in fun or at least it was to a point.. we talked about it more and spoke about how people feel comfortable with me so they let out emotions that they once held in and that people tend to also gain weight.. not

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[eternalhearts]

Sunshine, you are not toxic. My weight gain and depression has nothing to do with you and everything to do with my sleep issues and meds. YOU are the light that keeps me in this world, that is keeping me from saying "fuck it all" and going to bed and never getting out of it. It's winter, and it's been a hard one for me--things will perk up once the Sun comes back and I can actually figure out where I am with all of this.

[wtbrosie]

thanks honey... but as i said.. it's been all of my partners.. that's what bugs me...

[whatsinaname]

maybe most everyone you've dated has a history of depression, which as you know is cyclical. so think of it that way....you spend enough time with someone with a history of depression, ( say a year) they will be happy at some points, and depressed at others. even if you had never met them, chances are they would be going through these stages regardless.
if someone has a propensity towards depression, it's like a train that can't be stopped. and once the glow of a new relationship inevitably wears off, the depression is likely to resurface.
you are not toxic, far from it. i think you're just drawn to depressed people. you see the other side of a persons depression, the smart, dynamic, creative, kind engaging side that lots of people you've loved have had.you can bring that out, too. it's kind of a gift. :)

[irish_eyes_29]

1. You like people with issues. You always have. ;) and i agree with bron 2. your "friend" who said this, was right in saying that people become ok with letting you see their true side, and their true emotions. Being said, it's easier to let oneself wallow where it is accepted. Jeremy doesn't do well with depresion and oddly enough my eating dissordered habbit died dramatically when we moved in together.

I personally find you a catch 22, its so comforting to find someone you can be around who understands and lets you feel, but sometimes it just allows for the pity party.

I hope you know i love you anyways. I am sure you are going to take this the wrong way, i hope i see you at the gym this week xoxo

[rvmuro]

I wasn't depressed when I was seeing you. And I got fat after you. So there- I want to know why you think this? People do these things to themselves. It's part of the "ever changing Lesbian"...we fall in love and eat when we are content. It's not you...