How much shame is healthy?

[writing_mombie]

When you have a baby, shame is probably not even in your mind. Yes, sure, maybe you have doubts about your "after-pregnancy-body" or about what others think about breast-feeding in public, but you don't think of your baby when it comes to the word "shame".

But the older your kid gets the more you will have to face it: shame is a part of our

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Shame...shame...shame...*picturing Cersei*

[anonymous]

This is a very difficult question. I think shame might be the wrong word because to me it has always been linked to religion and what was defined as decent and indecent behavior. Nudity itself is not shameful to me. I find it weird that things like breasts are so sexualized and I would want my kids to grow up feeling comfortable in their body despite being objectified at times. I want them to feel comfortable in their skin and not ashamed for who they are, but like you said also open to criticism and willing to work on themselves. However, what I think they should change might not be what they would want to change

RE: Shame...shame...shame...*picturing Cersei*

[writing_mombie]

I totally agree with you (and yes, I thought of the atonement too, but didn't wanna use a gif or so of GOT since this topic is too serious to link it to a show - my fav. show/book but anyways... ;) )!
I also think, that breasts shouldn't be sexualized, but since there ARE in our society I feel the need to protect my daughter. Of course, she can choose whatever profession she likes and if she chooses to show off her body, so be it. BUT I want her to stay save in the same time. Especially at a young age. There are simply too many sick people out there and as long as I can protect her (them!), I will do so!
And yes, me too, I want my kids to be humble AND proud at the same time, too. You expressed this really well and I simply agree on this 100%.