I could be everything you want me to be

[woodycakes]

Dating is weird. I haven't been doing it long. The number of dates I've gone on can still be counted between my ten fingers (less) and majority of that happened in the last 5 months so you could say I'm pretty much on hyperdrive

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[ragnarok_08]

*hugs*

I think that it's never too late, and you might find someone when the time is right, and like you said, when you re-install your Tinder when you're ready.

[woodycakes]

haha, yes, i itch sometimes to just re-install it but the crop here ain't stellar so why bother.
i'll be bored eventually and will get into it again, i'm sure.

yeah i realise there is no set path/timeline/pattern. i love patterns though and i love knowing what's coming next but i guess that's never the case. i can't plan for this.

[lusimeles]

1. dating is super weird for most people, i think, whether you're a late bloomer or not. being a late bloomer is statistically unusual, sure, but despite your most recent experiences, i don't think it is a dealbreaker - or even big deal - for the right person <3

[woodycakes]

1. thanks, i realise this societal indication of when it's late/early is kind of silly but i love being with the norm. so it irks me that for this 'stage' of development, i'm severely lacking.

2. so everyone tells me. you know me. i care. too much. which is completely wrong apparently haha. so yeah, i'm finding the happy medium between caaaaaareing way too much that it affects me and not being totally unaffected when i am. oh happy mediums. so hard to find. I LOVE THIS: 'you only have to get it right one time' <-- this is true

3. hahahaha. yeah, i'm just taking a break from seeking out new~ boys on tinder because tinder can be a cesspool except when it's not which is rare. thanks, woman. expect lots of weird messages because being on #teampatty is the hardest squad to be in. it's lots of flaky patty messaging and neuroses. you're a champ wing lady so thank you.

4. SPEAKING OF... I'M GOING TO GO WATCH REALLY BAD ROMCOMS/HALLMARK MOVIES because those own me.

[lusimeles]

1. meh, the norm is so overrated! i sometimes think people strive too hard to fit into the norm, and only end up realizing they weren't meant for it when it's too late - or just super devastating - to turn back.

2. the 'you only have to get it right once' is SO comforting to me, too. i know you'll get it right that one time in time <3

3. aw, i relish your 'weird messages,' really! i'm sorry i'm so bad at initiating texts - i just feel like i never have anything in particular to talk to people about, or if i do, it's like... an entire essay's worth of rando thoughts. i'm glad you think i've been a good wing lady bc i feel like i've done basically nothing!

4. NICE :D which ones in particular?

[woodycakes]

1. yeah i'm definitely not the norm and coping with this fact haha

2. i will. repeat 10x haha

3. don't feel bad girl. i bug you. ALL THE TIME. it's not even funny. so feel free. time difference be damned, i welcome all messages

4. hallmark! i'm currently doing their countdown to valentines day. yes, it exists.

[maybe]

You and I discussed this on whatsapp the other day, but a break sounds like a good idea. Just do your own thing for a while, and you might meet someone when you're least expecting it. So many people I've talked to about this said they met someone special when they weren't looking. In the meantime, enjoy Netflix ( my big love, tbh )

[woodycakes]

NETFLIX never breaks my heart haha!

[jamypye]

Heyyy. I'm not one to talk about dating, but yes I'm rooting for you and praying for you. Like the many things we struggle for in life, and this is one of them-- it is honestly the most difficult to deal with since so much of it is out of our control.
So I'm glad you've decided to take some (non) action, as sometimes that is the best course. Until the right one comes along (thank you Striking Matches!)...May the rest be fruitful for you. :)

Btw loved this line-- "I'll take meh over scarring any day". Haha sooo true.

[woodycakes]

I know you are. Thanks for the prayers. I need those, obviously. HAY. YOU KNOW I LOVE BEING IN CONTROL LOL. so hard. must let go, let God.

FRUIT SALAD INDEED. I'm not not doing anything just not Tinder-ing right now.

MEEEEEH >>>> EVERYTHING i'd liek to think ahah. i love this middle ground

[frelling_tralk]

I've been thinking about trying online dating, but the thought of going on awkward first dates fills me with dread. It is hard to meet people

[woodycakes]

it is so hard to meet people. so i was hoping tinder would expand my social circle and it did. i think i need to re-calibrate how i approach this but yeah. try it, it can't be too bad. just be safe~