Comments | woodsie22: Hmmm

woodsie22

Hmmm

Aug 19, 2012 21:08

Well, I'm back in my apartment after a week with my family. The visitation/memorial/not a funeral was easier than I expected. Lots of people came by, saying nice things - as one would expect. Of course, the gambling addict/manager of the family store was acting like he was part of the family (um, no). He brought his wife and daughter, who had a ( Read more... )

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lady_of_entropy August 20 2012, 02:23:31 UTC

Nothing special to say but I'm here man. I hope your mom can unload the business soon, yeah. It's cool you and Tara got the bedroom looking all new though, I bet that was a huge help to your mom psychologically. And thank God you were the one who got rid of your dad's stuff instead of her.

As for the evil ex-sister-in-law, yuck. The sooner your mom is rid of all these vultures the better.

woodsie22 August 20 2012, 03:06:04 UTC

Yeah, my main mission of the week was to get rid of as many reminders as I could. My sister and I will be making several trips over the next few months to try to get our mom set up.

You know, the crazy thing is, because my dad was never really around the house (until he got sick), until it got late, it didn't really seem strange that he wasn't home. I did however, catch myself thinking, at about 7pm one night, when I was out doing errands, that it might be about time for him to get home.

lady_of_entropy August 20 2012, 04:09:05 UTC

That's happened to me before...in my case, the most recent time was when I saw a look-alike of someone I had known in the grocery store and went to greet her, only to stop and be reminded that there was no way it could be her since she was gone.

I was sad but I was also kind of glad that she was still present for me in my thoughts and expectations. I know the situation with your dad is pretty different, but I guess even with the distance he imposed during his life, his presence will still be there for you sometimes. I can understand where you'd want to limit that for your mother right now. Dealing with stuff like that naturally as it comes is probably a lot better than being forced to face it every time you turn around and see some object or other. I've been really impressed with you and your sister's practicality throughout the ordeal. I think your mom has the best help she can get right now.

Are you doing okay? I know you've been focused on helping your mom, but I hope you're taking care of yourself too. Do you personally ( ... )

woodsie22 August 21 2012, 22:55:43 UTC

Yeah, I think I'm okay. I've always been closer to my mom, and I readily admit that if it was her, I'd be inconsolable. But with my dad, we were never really close, because we're both very reserved and had similar personalities. My brother and sister had him in their lives a little more, but not a lot. It was more of a practical relationship (provider) than an emotional one ( ... )