*hug* I don't think I'd like an open-casket service, either. When my grandfather died, my parents adamantly refused to allow it, and my aunt didn't argue much (I have a very small family, so it was just me, my parents, and my aunt and uncle as the "family"). The vigil part was okay because it was just extended family and friends telling me stories about how my grandfather always talked about me and I had my back to the casket the whole time. The funeral was harder >_< I got to "receive" the WWII vetern flag, though, since I'm the only grandkid. It's good that you had your family there for support; I think that's important.
Yeah, open caskets are just freaky. I fully intend to let everyone know that when I die, I don't want to be in an open casket freaking people out.
I think receiving the flag was the hardest part for Memere, because it's right before they lower the casket. But it's a nice tribute, and it's pretty neat watching them fold it up into a little triangle.
I know what you mean about the whole open casket thing. It's just a body. It's not the person you knew. Seeing my granddad in his casket was... surreal (didn't help that I was like 8 or 9 at the time).
Honey, I'm sorry you were freaking out... If I were with you for real you'd be getting lots of DD hugs. :nodnod:
Like reality has ever stopped me before! :huggles like mad:
I'm still impressed that people have read all that. It's sooo long... XD
I had my mommy to take care of me (and she had me to take care of her) while my stepdad was busy with all the actual funeral stuff and comforting his mom. And I know I have lots of lovely friends like you sending me mental huggles. :P Yay for huggles! *hugglezzzz* ^_^ Love ya!
I didn't have time until today to read it, but of course I read it.
Open caskets - the idea just freaks me out. A loved one with all that makeup on him postmortem - just unsettling. Seems like a kind of service where everyone just comes to be sad. I'd rather have an Irish wake kind of deal, where people remember the happier times. The grief should come later, after people have had a chance to commune in a positive way. But that's my deal.
I miss you, darling! We should do something next week and catch up ... maybe take in a viewing of the new P&P? *HUG* I love you.
Yeah, the makeup on the dead body was really freaky. Plus, they smoothed out his wrinkles. It just didn't look like him at all.
Well, as I said, the reception after the burial was more light-hearted, and the family dinner we had the next day was really fun, so it ended on a happier note. At least for me. Memere was, of course, still upset.
I'll call you sometime after Thanksgiving to set up a date, 'kay? =)
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I think receiving the flag was the hardest part for Memere, because it's right before they lower the casket. But it's a nice tribute, and it's pretty neat watching them fold it up into a little triangle.
Thanks!
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I know what you mean about the whole open casket thing. It's just a body. It's not the person you knew. Seeing my granddad in his casket was... surreal (didn't help that I was like 8 or 9 at the time).
Honey, I'm sorry you were freaking out... If I were with you for real you'd be getting lots of DD hugs. :nodnod:
Like reality has ever stopped me before! :huggles like mad:
I love ya, honey! ♥ ♥ ♥
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I had my mommy to take care of me (and she had me to take care of her) while my stepdad was busy with all the actual funeral stuff and comforting his mom. And I know I have lots of lovely friends like you sending me mental huggles. :P Yay for huggles! *hugglezzzz* ^_^ Love ya!
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Open caskets - the idea just freaks me out. A loved one with all that makeup on him postmortem - just unsettling. Seems like a kind of service where everyone just comes to be sad. I'd rather have an Irish wake kind of deal, where people remember the happier times. The grief should come later, after people have had a chance to commune in a positive way. But that's my deal.
I miss you, darling! We should do something next week and catch up ... maybe take in a viewing of the new P&P? *HUG* I love you.
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Well, as I said, the reception after the burial was more light-hearted, and the family dinner we had the next day was really fun, so it ended on a happier note. At least for me. Memere was, of course, still upset.
I'll call you sometime after Thanksgiving to set up a date, 'kay? =)
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