First Days Of Unemployement

[weirdsister_fis]

It's been OK. I've been feeling a lot calmer since I've gotten unemployed (which officially was the 8th of October)
There are the occasional worries about having to find a new job, if i will ever find one and how am i going to get the money after these 4 months of welfare. I just hope i'll be able to find something, because i really, really want to

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[maiden_mist]

Hmm...I know how you feel about letting your parents down, I felt the same this summer when i realized I got grades not high enough to keep me at the tax free places. Nevertheless, I told my parents...I believe that parents are the only people who will be there next to you no matter what you do, they will comfort you and help and support...No matter what. It's just an advice: do tell your parents. It will make you feel better, maybe. As if you're not alone in this. Because you're not. We all have expectations, but I'm sure parents are the only ones who just cannot throw it in your face, like "I thought you could do better than this."...

[weirdsister_fis]

Not all parents are like that.
When we were growing up, my dad was delighted in the fact that Suomi and I were so smart. So he always wanted us to grow up and become a doctor or lawyer or any other high status occupation. Especially since he never could, since he grew up in a time that a smart kid from working-class parents couldn't study and had to work after highschool straight away.
For example, he still complains about Suomi doing a study with low job-outcome instead of supporting her for having done something academic close to her heart.

And to me, he always told me i'd make a great doctor. When i choose a study on a college rather than a university, it was hard for him, but at least becoming a teacher wasn't really bad. But i've failed that and now i failed this job, which already was a job he wasn't at peace with.

Don't get me wrong, i love my dad, but he will get disappointed and i've seen that in his eyes too often.

[maiden_mist]

hmm..no, I do understand it's hard for you. I do get his point of view as well, but in fact, the biggest trouble with parents' wish for their kid is that sometimes it doesn't match the kid's wish per se. Like, you couldn't have done something that you didn't like/enjoy, now, could you

[cpufem]

hey there. i think it's great you wake up early the way you are doing now. i think staying in a routine of some sort will help you stave off any depressed feelings. here in the U.S. the common advice given to those unemployed is to "make finding the job your full time job". while you may not necessarily want to make it a full time job, have you considered seeking out some groups that would provide some opportunities for you to network? or even just groups that work on resumes?

i do think you've made the right choice for you and i wish you the best.

[weirdsister_fis]

Yes routine is the nr.1 thing to have when unemployed. I know that if i let myself, i'll stay in bed till 11.30, watch telly till 4, do some chores and cook and nothing more. From experience i know that such a routine will really spur my depression on, so i drag myself out of bed every morning and do silly aerobics (step-up, step-down, kick, etc) for at least 30 minutes because i've read exercising helps in the fight against depression.
I've not been looking for a job really, since my best friend is getting married tomorrow and i'm really busy arranging things for that. But i guess that's kinda job in itself ;) I do have a work-coach which comes with the wellfare, so when all the documentation is cleared, she'll call me for an appointment, i'm sure.

Thanks for your support!
How are you doing, by the way? Found some nice, easy to put on shoes?