Garter & Bouquet toss

[kgtgirl]

So I'm home sick which is probably why i'm posting so much, but I've been wondering about throwing the garter and the bouquet. I know that for some people its the worse part of the night, and for my guests there aren't alot of single guests. So this was my idea could i put a spin on the bouquet and garter toss and have everyone come up well all the

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[abirdinbloom]

We're having the toss/catch but we aren't doing anything else. If you catch traditionally you're the next to marry. You don't have to put the garter on the catches leg. Thats it!

[cbackson]

I think it's hard to convince people who hate this tradition that it's a symbol of something else at your wedding, specifically--I mean, it's kind of hard to get the "I know that this is what this usually stands for, but right now it stands for something different!" message around to people. It's still likely that the single folks will get herded up there and will feel the same way about it as they usually do.

[wildflower_tsw]

You can do it however you want! We didn't do it for the same reason: not a lot of singles... but many couples have done (or are planning to do) different variations on the garter/bouquet toss. Do what works for your situation. :)

Feel better... I have been sick for 2 weeks, so I can sympathize completely!

[arwinday]

Sorry you're feeling under the weather.

I'm hoping FH will go along with my idea -- a pull pinata (where you pull a string to release everything, instead of hitting it with a stick) - we'll put a silk toss bouquet, a garter, an Amazon gift card, some lottery tickets, and a bunch of really good chocolates (lindt truffles, liqueur filled chocolates, etc.) in the pinata -- and let EVERYONE - gay, straight, married, single, etc. participate. That way, everyone gets a chance for some luck.

I've always felt bad for happy singles and gay people when they attend weddings -- the older generation, in particular, ALWAYS pushes anyone who isn't married to participate, and it can be very awkward. I'm happy to be marrying my FH, but I certainly would never presume that being married is the one right way to live and I just feel like the garter/bouquet toss suggests exactly that.

[mytinycorner]

I just have to say that I LOVE the pinata idea! We're getting married on Cinqo De Mayo so I've been trying to find a way to encorporate a pinata into our day. Mind if I borrow the idea?

[arwinday]

Of course I don't mind - as soon as I came across the idea (somewhere among the dozens of websites I've been looking at ;), I remembered that SOMEONE on this board was having a Cinco de Mayo wedding. I think it'll be terrific! There are a lot of sites with them - some with wishing wells, brides, grooms, and wedding cakes. But I also saw more Mexican themed ones, and started looking for someone who makes custom pinatas - since we're in Seattle with a view of Mount Rainer, I thought something like the mountain might be fun.

[mytinycorner]

Who did you find for the custom pinata? We're in Olympia so someone that you found would probably work for us too. A Mount Rainer pinata would be fabulous, I think we'll probably do something hot pink, black, and white to match our colors.

[jasminefairy]

that's a cute idea!!! I like it alot!