Thank you for welcoming me! -- Now I need help.

[groomzilla]

First of all, I want to thank all of you.

Thank you for welcoming me to this community. I wasn't sure how I'd be taken here as a groom. And thank you for keeping this community. I haven't even asked a single question yet (before this post, at least), and I've already been humbled, finding out I know very little about this wedding planning thing

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[xdarkstarx]

you'll discover as your plans march onward that you will have plenty of tasks her cousin could undertake that would preserve order in your wedding party. one of my husband's sisters was a bridesmaid and the other was a reader during the ceremony. we were also grateful for the help of our friends as ushers/guest-herders (getting the guests from the ceremony area of the site to the reception area of the site).

[july5th]

Agreed; to passify parents, it would be easy to give that person a "special role" while maintaining what YOU (meaning you and bride) want (or don't want). Depending on the level of closeness, (s)he could do a reading or be in charge of the guestbook, or be the bride's (I'm assuming the cousin is a she here) personal assistant -- someone people go to if the sky is falling as to not worry the bride's or groom's head off and who can be in charge.

Good luck!

[groomzilla]

Thanks!

That's actually a really good idea for a role. A lot of people here were suggesting similar things (most people, in fact); but I couldn't think of a non-public role (she doesn't like being seen directly) until you brought up the idea of her being the bride's personal assistant -- the go-to-person. I think she'd be perfect for that.

[groomzilla]

Thanks!

Yeah, most of the other people in this forum suggested the same thing. I guess I hadn't even considered that (newbie). Somebody else said something though, that made sense too -- to just screw the uneven side thing if Bride really legitimately wants cousin there (without pressure from outside).

[adgam_ga]

I honeymooned in Hawai'i... toured four islands -- O'ahu, Kaua'i, Maui, and the Big Island of Hawai'i. It was absolutely the most fabulous time of my life. It really is paradise.

If you're planning your wedding there, here are a few "tips" for you:

• Take care of the paperwork early in your planning. You'll need a marriage license from the State of Hawai'i to be legally married. To get this done, refer to Hawaii's marriage requirements.

• Planning a wedding on uncharted ground can be challenging. Relax! Find a good wedding coordinator and let someone else do the work...you just need to say "I do." Recommended coordinators• If you're planning an outdoor wedding: Hawaii's temperatures average 78 degrees Fahrenheit year-round and though rain showers are usually light and brief - except December through February when you'll have the occasional day-long downpour - you should plan a backup location in case of inclement weather. Also keep in mind that strong tradewinds (winds from the North) are a Hawai'i hallmark, especially in

[groomzilla]

Wow. Thanks for all the information! :)

Have you ever considered doing this professionally? I mean, working for a wedding-related thing in Hawai'i?

...

I'm actually from Hawai'i, but I should tell you that everything you wrote was dead-on accurate, and is the same advice that I would give to anybody else getting married in Hawai'i. In fact, do you mind if I share the information you've written here with others who are planning to get married in Hawai'i?

Truly though, I appreciate you taking the time to type that all out for me. Excellent information -- in fact, I'm hoping somebody else will see it and use it.

Finally, I'm glad my home treated you with aloha and left you with fantastic memories :)

[adgam_ga]

Have you ever considered doing this professionally? I mean, working for a wedding-related thing in Hawai'i?

Funny you should mention that... I am, in fact, a Certified Professional Wedding Planner and I have had an occasion to plan a "destination wedding" for a couple.

I'm happy you found the information useful, in a way... feel free to share it with whomever you choose.

Mahalo nui loa to the wonderful state of Hawai'i! Your homeland gave me the most beautiful honeymoon memories and now whenever I hear of anyone planning their honeymoon, my first suggestion always is for them to spend it in Hawai'i!

Ho‘omaika‘i ‘ana... Pomaika‘i

[groomzilla]

I'm honored :)

And I should thank you (seriously) for directing people to my state, since it's such a tourism-driven economy!

[gal7171]

Go with C... only add people that mean something to you or your bride.

We're going to Hawaii for our honeymoon!!!! We're getting married next weekend, so we'll be in Hawaii a week from now! Can you tell I'm excited! We're staying in a cottage at Maui for 6 nights, going to a hotel at the Big Island for 4 nights and Ohau for one night to see Pearl Harbor. If you are planing to go there... these are the things we have booked to do:
Road to Hana
Snorkling, swimming with dolphins, and kayaking
Going to a Luau
Bike riding down the Mtn. at Sunrise
Helicopter tour
Parasailing
Dinner cruise
Submarine

Probably some more, but I can't think of it all...

Hope this helps.

[groomzilla]

Wow awesome! I hope you guys have a great time. I think the way you're doing it is the way to really do it. Instead of staying at a resort on Maui, you're staying at a cottage. This way you can truly relax

[ksledge]

D) Have uneven sides. That is what we are doing in our wedding. All I'm saying is that it's an option. If you don't want to add the cousin then don't add him! The other thing you can do is make him an usher so he doesn't stand up there with you.

[beckylee]

Agreed. There's no rule that the two sides have to be even.

[groomzilla]

*nod*

I didn't even think about that. Very true.

[groomzilla]

Thanks :)

Yeah you know what? I didn't even think of that. I mean, having the uneven sides. It might look funny to me, but I'd rather do that than have somebody that I don't feel comfortable about having up there with me.

[cme2694]

First I would ask who is paying for the wedding. When you hold the purse, it's a lot easier to tell people to shove it. If her parents are paying, sit down and explain it to them.

Why can't you have uneven sides? That's what we're doing. My fiance has two brothers and cannot choose between them for a best man, so he is having both of them. He has 3 people on his side, and I have 2.

[groomzilla]

Ah yes.

The uneven side thing is becoming an option now. It hadn't even occured to me before the three of you mentioned it. I'd rather have uneven sides than have somebody up there with me who I don't feel like having up there with me.

We're paying for the wedding -- up to a point. Anything extravagant that the families want, they'll have to pay for.

This makes sense. Thank you :)