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[roseeyedangel]

Hello everyone! I hope your day was fantastic!

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Comments

[ipsafictura]

Gorgeous ring!

I wish you the best of luck with your future-in-laws, though navigating religious waters is always tricky. I think your best bet is simple to be as respectful of their beliefs as you can, while keeping true to what you and your FH believe. As far as drinking, if you'd like a compromise, you could just offer beer and wine, instead of hard alcohol, but depending on how strict they are, that may not be sufficient.

It might be helpful for you to research Mormon wedding traditions, which would give you a sense of what they expect, and perhaps provide you with some elements that you could incorporate in order to acknowledge your future in-law's culture.

[roseeyedangel]

Thanks! I think wine and beer only might work. Since they are not supposed to have caffeine either and almost everyone drinks like 5 cokes a day ^.^

Mostly I guess it is just hard because Mormon wedding traditions are something that can only be done in the within one of the world's 131 Holy Temples. and they are not very forthcoming to non-members what happens at these weddings as non-members are not allowed to attend. but i think i will keep trying to brainstorm how to make them not feel snubbed or something.

[roseeyedangel]

I know right! the seller also have several other designs s/he dose as well! i say totally check them out!

[orpheuskiss]

Yeah they're pretty awesome.

[nacho_cheese]

First, OMG, thank you for that etsy seller! I'm going to have to peruse her stuff and see what she's got. :) Those necklaces are gorgeous

[kaymyth]

Good info here, and I have a few more tidbits:

Mormon "Sealings" are different from other marriages in that they're supposed to last into the afterlife, so that when you get to their idea of heaven, you're married to your partner for all eternity. They do not allow non-Mormons in to even witness these ceremonies, so it's quite possible that the reason his his family is so upset about the non-conversion is that you can't have a "proper" Sealing.

[leliel]

Plus, as I understand it, marrying another Mormon in a Mormon temple is required get into the celestial heaven. So in their eyes you may not just be corrupting him in this life, but messing up his chances in the afterlife as well.

If they are hardcore, it makes for a very difficult system of beliefs to accomodate. :(

[candyce]

I'm sorry, this is probably none of my business, but please think very carefully about using "forever and a day" if you believe in reincarnation. It's all very romantic to think that you'll keep loving each other through every life, but it isn't really practical. It could be that you need to move on to different partners to learn different lessons and experience different kinds of growth, and if you bind yourselves together you could cause a serious karmic tangle where you just end up coming together and resenting each other life after life because you're not going anywhere. And what if one of you dies very young, but then the other can't find another partner because they're bound to the other? That isn't really fair

[nacho_cheese]

This is an excellent point. As a matter of fact, FH and I have bounced around the idea of putting something in like "as long as our love shall last," meant to indicate that we recognize that love is fluid and given every day, not something that we can depend on "forever and a day" or even "a year and a day." To tie ourselves indefinitely? As someone who does believe in a loose type of reincarnation, it would kind of suck to come back and discover something's different and karmically wrong from the marriage vows I make in this life! :)

[moonnfreak]

sorry i have no advice on the religion stuff, but i just wanted to comment on a few other things. 1)i love those stockings!! very pretty! 2)very sweet proposal and pretty ring!