Elopement

[pdbetty86]

So my FH and I may just forget the whole wedidng and elope this friday.  For those of you who have done it, or been to a small civil ceremony... what did you do to make it more special?   Special dress?  flowers or no flowers?  veil?  We aren't sure that we are doing this or not yet, we are just seriously toying with the idea.  Our wediding drama

Comments

[anerise]

I think it'll depend on what you want! If you want to dress up, wear a veil and carry flowers- go for it. If you want to get married in t-shirts and jeans, that's great too. As long as it's what you want. :) You could also make a little mini-break out of the weekend, even if it's renting a hotel room in your own town for 2 nights and pretending to be tourists for the weekend :P But again, it's all up to you.

[spacefem]

just make sure you really want this, and that you're not just doing it to run away and escape the drama. if it's not what you really want you'll regret it later. and chances are, there will be drama anyway.

[jennofavalon]

word to the wise.. make sure this is what you both REALLY want. and if it is then go for it. know that not everyone will support a small ceremony.. butyou have to ignore it.. i did. lol i have 17 guests at my wedding and one or two people were slighted they werent invited.. my inward response was" i dont care!" and i laughed it off.. becuase this is what stu and I truely wanted and we had a small and PERFECT wedding ceremony:)
just make sure this is what you ant and make it your own.. flowers.. a pretty dress a nice suit or whatever will make you guys feel special:)
good luck!

[classiclindsey]

I agree with the above posters. If I was to elope with my fiance, it would only cause more drama and hurt feelings within my family. They would be hurt that we didn't include them in our wedding, etc. But that's my family. And yours may be different.

Since the leap year down come every four years it may be a popular day to get married so call ahead (like today if possible) and make sure they know your coming.

And you can wear whatever you want. It can be as formal or informal as you choose.

[thewordfairy]

You could always do what we did, elope, and then when it is more fesible and you have the time and inclination, do a ceremony or just throw a big ass party for all your family/friends.

I keep saying this I know, but seriously, it is A LOT less stressful planning a wedding when you are already married.

I only had 22 hrs to prepare for our civil service so I just wore a dress that I loved and that myHusband thinks I look way hot in. My friends brought me TWO bouquets of flowers, and we all went out for sushi after.
It was just about him and I getting married. Now we knew we were going to do a ceremony later so my family wasn't too pissed about not being there, but there was miscommunication on his side and his sister was PISSED until she found out we were doing another ceremony later.

*crosses fingers for you*
Do what you feel is right. Those that love you are going to be a little pissed off but will respect what you say you needed. Those who stay pissed off, you should buy a pasifier for and tell them to suck it up.