If you want to make sure he's obligated to pay a share of the rent, make sure both names are on the lease. If you want to have the ability to boot him out if you choose, make sure you're the only one on the lease. If you want to have the option to leave at any time you choose, make sure he's the only one on the lease.
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Having lived with 4 different girls, My biggest piece of advice would be to figure out the money thing first, and make sure that it stays straight. Money is the #1 cause of divorce, and I'd be willing to bet it splits co-habitating couples just as much. So figure out what you're both comfy with, and stick to it. That way there's never a fight about money. A fight over just about anything else doesn't cause nearly as much resentment as if one person percieves that they are paying for everything and the other person isn't.
i moved down to norfolk and have a place already so he'd be moving in with me. i'm kind of worried about the money thing because he likes to spend a lot and yes, a lot of it's on me, but he still likes to spend none the less and it makes me worried that i'll be covering rent for both of us. Which I really don't want to.
We just talked about it last night and I thought i'd see what people have to say about it. I'm sure his ex will track this down and have something to say. haha. but oh well.
Well, if he's moving in to your (existing) apt, sit him down and tell him you dont want the money to ruin it and if he doesnt pay whatever you two decide his share is, he's out. Not that you're breaking up if he doesnt pay, just that you cant support his slacker ass (if he turns into one). It's not worth the stress over money.
[ps: if "he" reads this later, i'm not calling you a slacker - i'd give this advice to anyone moving in with anyone, dating or not. I give the same speech before I get a new room mate/gf moving in, etc]
haha. don't worry. he'd know you're not calling him a slacker. that what i would do if things go like that. it's not like he doesn't have a place to go. He's always got the barracks if I kick his ass out. haha.
Yeah. I understand. Everyone is kind of warning you guys about moving in together. My mom said she figured it would happen some day but to just be careful and make sure he can handle the financial responsibility first.
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If you want to make sure he's obligated to pay a share of the rent, make sure both names are on the lease.
If you want to have the ability to boot him out if you choose, make sure you're the only one on the lease.
If you want to have the option to leave at any time you choose, make sure he's the only one on the lease.
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Having lived with 4 different girls, My biggest piece of advice would be to figure out the money thing first, and make sure that it stays straight. Money is the #1 cause of divorce, and I'd be willing to bet it splits co-habitating couples just as much. So figure out what you're both comfy with, and stick to it. That way there's never a fight about money. A fight over just about anything else doesn't cause nearly as much resentment as if one person percieves that they are paying for everything and the other person isn't.
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i moved down to norfolk and have a place already so he'd be moving in with me. i'm kind of worried about the money thing because he likes to spend a lot and yes, a lot of it's on me, but he still likes to spend none the less and it makes me worried that i'll be covering rent for both of us. Which I really don't want to.
We just talked about it last night and I thought i'd see what people have to say about it. I'm sure his ex will track this down and have something to say. haha. but oh well.
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[ps: if "he" reads this later, i'm not calling you a slacker - i'd give this advice to anyone moving in with anyone, dating or not. I give the same speech before I get a new room mate/gf moving in, etc]
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i think only you can tell if it will be a good idea.
basically, josh and i are at that point in our relationship where living together is the real "test" (in his words)
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We'll see how things go! :)
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