I feel you dude, my siblings are both in serious relationships and I am the permenantly single one. Just know you're not alone with it. I have never had a serious relationship and i'm so sick of friends and family all 'so have you met anyone....it'll happen one day...' I swear it bothers them more than it bothers me half the time. However If it ever gets to that depressing point I am going to open up a single lady compound so all us singles can at least grow old together in a giant house. xxxx
However If it ever gets to that depressing point I am going to open up a single lady compound so all us singles can at least grow old together in a giant house.
Is there a screening process? An application I fill out? Somewhere I can put my name on a list? Because that sounds awesome.
Most of the time, it's not even that I really think about it A LOT, it's just like a shit storm of love and marriage recently, with the cold and bitter reminder that I've still got no one. Blarg.
Seriously I know how you feel, all my friends are suddenly getting engaged/married/pregnant. It's like an epidemic. Sometimes I get totally lonely too and sometimes i'm quite happy being alone, i think part of my problem is i've been alone such a long time I don't know how to 'be' a couple or in a relationship. I have a really hard time giving up my time. It's hard sometimes. I mean it about my singleton house though and it's an open invitation. xxxxxxx
YES. If they're not getting married, they're making babies. And it's not that I hate everyone getting married and making babies, I'm really very happy for all of them, because they are happy, but I can't help but feel a little . . . blah about it too. And yes, omg. I am THIRTY. I don't want to share a bed and a closet and my TV watching habits with someone else all the time. I mean, I probably would, but I can't imagine it right now. I like my bed just like it is.
ANYWHO. I would leave you various internet hugs and such, but really I would rather just get together and have a long, lovely talk with some wine. I miss you! I want to tell you nice things to your face!
Let's make time? Not this Friday, but the next? (Love you. Also ::hugs::)
And btw, I better get an invite, be it as a guest or a plus one.
I would rather get together and have a long, lovely talk with some wine too! I miss youuuuu, Candy La Rue. Unfortunately, next Friday I have made binding plans to be in Ft. Worth to visit my friend Amy and go to Six Flags one last time. I will, however, be newly available the first weekend in November, as my sister has had to cancel the previously planned engagement party. (She's still engaged, they're just going to be in Vancouver that weekend scoping out wedding venues. Yes, it makes me hate my life more.)
Idk what is going on with the invites. If she does get married in Vancouver, it is going to be a teensy wedding, open mostly only to people who are related by blood, but I will have this plus one available, I do believe. You and Kate are close enough, you probably count as one. Do you mind sharing a plate of food?
First of all: totally agree with you on the texted photo of the ring thing. If a dear friend or family member did that to me, I would feel quite affronted. It seems to be the iPhone/Facebook of the engagement world - "everyone has one, so why shouldn't I?" EVERYONE is throwing out these engagement ring photos to share "the big news" instead of legitimately sharing the big news. Comfort yourself in knowing that the less than stellar method of communication chosen by your sister in this case is a GIANT STUPID FAD. (Like Twilight.)
As for your reaction to the news, I can't say anything helpful because I feel similarly. Moments like these just kind of pour salt into that open, ever-bleeding wound created by fear and sometimes hopelessness.
Hey, look at it this way: now when you find a honey, you can gloat that your family saved the best for last. ;)
UGH, DUDE. You should see these texts, they are pretty epic in their amount of effrontery. (I see what you did in the parenthesis, don't think I don't.)
Your icon is so apt, because it's SOCIETY and DISNEY and JANE AUSTEN that have done this to me, this idea that my life cannot be meaningful and fulfilling unless I'm married with my picket fence and my 2.5 children. I mean, not really all society's fault, because it's also MY fault, but still.
:O I have never before heard or seen the word "effrontery." NEW FAVORITE! (Also, my parentheticals are so sneaky. Sometimes I have to throw in italicized FADS to make them noticeable.) ;)
It's truuuuuue! We grow up surrounded by fairy tale images of happily ever after and how glorious, romantic, and adventurous life will be when we find it. It all makes the "meantime" of our lives feel so... dull and anti-climactic.
I'VE HAD A FABULOUS THOUGHT! You should write a book. Then millions of men will fall in love with you through your words (and the little "author's note" photograph on the inside flap of your book's dust jacket). They will flock to you, and you will have your pick of them. Then your gloat can be two-fold! :D :D :D
Well, I do like to use big words. It makes me feel important. :p (And yes they are.)
I WANT MUCH MORE THAN THIS PROVINCIAL LIFE, JUST AROUND THE RIVER BEND, UP WHERE THEY WALK, SOMEDAY MY PRINCE WILL COME, ETC TO INFINITY.
WOW, THAT IS A FANTASTIC IDEA, I CAN'T BELIEVE YOU HAVEN'T EXPRESSED IT BEFORE. :pppp I don't think many straight men read memoirs. Or, at least, my experience at the book store says they don't. I am interested in two fold gloating though. I should get on this.
♥ ♥ You are such a ball of giddy sunshine. Thanks for being my friend. :)
and let's not get started on paul gross' singing voice
BWAH. I don't know why I just started laughing but this killed me for some reason.
As for you post ... Being the perpetual singleton in my closest group of friends, I understand entirely how you feel. I also see that it must be incredibly hard for you as you're practically surrounded by couples and family members talking about their weddings/children/homes while at the same time making you feel stupid (unintentionally or not) for being single.
Being single can be exhausting in a world that requires that we pair up but marriage doesn't necessarily mean a fulfilling life. But you already know that.
And hey man. A good solitary cry and can be helpful. You just need to stop feeling bad for being single. Let Paul Gross wash away those tears. ;)
I read this early early early this morning and LAUGHED SO HARD at this. It pretty much made the rest of my day. I listened to Ride Forever on the way to work this morning and could not stop laughing at the whip cracks in the chorus. Why, Paul Gross, why?
It's exhausting everywhere! Every church I've been to has a million programs for couples and families and, like, crap all for single people. Taxes are better when you're a couple. Insurance is cheaper. Phones are cheaper when you bundle. No one wants one of anything. Ugh. THANKS, WORLD.
But thanks for the comments. It is nice to have company in singleness.
I read this early early early this morning and LAUGHED SO HARD at this. It pretty much made the rest of my day. I listened to Ride Forever on the way to work this morning and could not stop laughing at the whip cracks in the chorus. Why, Paul Gross, why?
LOL. Glad to help.
And yes, Why, Paul Gross? Why? But even more, WHY DO YOU HAVE THAT SONG AT ALL? ;)
BECAUSE. :p Like a couple of years ago I read all of cesperanza and resonant's due South fic, but I never actually watched the show or looked at the people in it or really gave a crap. And then two weeks ago I bought all three seasons off amazon for $20 and can't stop watching it, and only JUST DISCOVERED that Paul Gross sings. So it's kind of like that thing you do when you're in a new fandom and you have to look at every single thing ever. So I'm listening to Paul Gross. :) incredulity sent me the due South soundtracks and the Gross and Keeley album. :p
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Is there a screening process? An application I fill out? Somewhere I can put my name on a list? Because that sounds awesome.
Most of the time, it's not even that I really think about it A LOT, it's just like a shit storm of love and marriage recently, with the cold and bitter reminder that I've still got no one. Blarg.
Thanks for the sympathy. :)))
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ANYWHO. I would leave you various internet hugs and such, but really I would rather just get together and have a long, lovely talk with some wine. I miss you! I want to tell you nice things to your face!
Let's make time? Not this Friday, but the next? (Love you. Also ::hugs::)
And btw, I better get an invite, be it as a guest or a plus one.
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Idk what is going on with the invites. If she does get married in Vancouver, it is going to be a teensy wedding, open mostly only to people who are related by blood, but I will have this plus one available, I do believe. You and Kate are close enough, you probably count as one. Do you mind sharing a plate of food?
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As for your reaction to the news, I can't say anything helpful because I feel similarly. Moments like these just kind of pour salt into that open, ever-bleeding wound created by fear and sometimes hopelessness.
Hey, look at it this way: now when you find a honey, you can gloat that your family saved the best for last. ;)
*hugs*
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Your icon is so apt, because it's SOCIETY and DISNEY and JANE AUSTEN that have done this to me, this idea that my life cannot be meaningful and fulfilling unless I'm married with my picket fence and my 2.5 children. I mean, not really all society's fault, because it's also MY fault, but still.
AND YES, YES I CAN GLOAT.
*hugs to youuuu*
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It's truuuuuue! We grow up surrounded by fairy tale images of happily ever after and how glorious, romantic, and adventurous life will be when we find it. It all makes the "meantime" of our lives feel so... dull and anti-climactic.
I'VE HAD A FABULOUS THOUGHT! You should write a book. Then millions of men will fall in love with you through your words (and the little "author's note" photograph on the inside flap of your book's dust jacket). They will flock to you, and you will have your pick of them. Then your gloat can be two-fold! :D :D :D
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I WANT MUCH MORE THAN THIS PROVINCIAL LIFE, JUST AROUND THE RIVER BEND, UP WHERE THEY WALK, SOMEDAY MY PRINCE WILL COME, ETC TO INFINITY.
WOW, THAT IS A FANTASTIC IDEA, I CAN'T BELIEVE YOU HAVEN'T EXPRESSED IT BEFORE. :pppp I don't think many straight men read memoirs. Or, at least, my experience at the book store says they don't. I am interested in two fold gloating though. I should get on this.
♥ ♥ You are such a ball of giddy sunshine. Thanks for being my friend. :)
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BWAH. I don't know why I just started laughing but this killed me for some reason.
As for you post ... Being the perpetual singleton in my closest group of friends, I understand entirely how you feel. I also see that it must be incredibly hard for you as you're practically surrounded by couples and family members talking about their weddings/children/homes while at the same time making you feel stupid (unintentionally or not) for being single.
Being single can be exhausting in a world that requires that we pair up but marriage doesn't necessarily mean a fulfilling life. But you already know that.
And hey man. A good solitary cry and can be helpful. You just need to stop feeling bad for being single. Let Paul Gross wash away those tears. ;)
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I read this early early early this morning and LAUGHED SO HARD at this. It pretty much made the rest of my day. I listened to Ride Forever on the way to work this morning and could not stop laughing at the whip cracks in the chorus. Why, Paul Gross, why?
It's exhausting everywhere! Every church I've been to has a million programs for couples and families and, like, crap all for single people. Taxes are better when you're a couple. Insurance is cheaper. Phones are cheaper when you bundle. No one wants one of anything. Ugh. THANKS, WORLD.
But thanks for the comments. It is nice to have company in singleness.
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LOL. Glad to help.
And yes, Why, Paul Gross? Why? But even more, WHY DO YOU HAVE THAT SONG AT ALL? ;)
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THAT'S WHY.
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