why is it so hard to write?

[vvalkyri]

maybe the chairs here at the library are the wrong size with the table. maybe i'm simply tired. i wasn't all that jazzed about the "brown bag discussion about using sex ed against rape culture" when I first got there, but I apparently made some useful points. One of which, actually, is something I need to write more about at some point other than

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Don't go there unless you have to

[musicman]

I'm a bit stumped why you feel you have to go through a list of mystery phone numbers and call them to inform the person on the other end of your mother's death? I did not do that for either of my parents. If they were close enough to be notified, there was no mystery of who they were, and what their phone number was. Otherwise, especially people who had not been in contact in years, I felt no obligation to call. I think notifying the school is good, and perhaps the college, and the paper (which paper? Wash Post is paid death notice only unless you are Someone, and then they will already know). I'm just suggesting not to put too much on yourself in the notifications. It is a deadly thing to do that leaves the taste ashes and loss in your mouth. I experienced that when a good friend died in college, for some reason I felt I had to tell people, and it made it all the worse for me, I probably notified probably 200 people, they kept calling and asking for the friend, or for more details, and so I spent a lot of time passing along bad

Re: Don't go there unless you have to

[vvalkyri]

Extenuating circumstances. Mom spent many years thinking she wasnt worth talking with, and people dropped by the wayside. Some of them are people I remember.

Most of these numbers aren't likely to work, though.