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viylette

On the thought of kids...

Jan 30, 2010 10:24

I really do not know if I like kids of not. I really don't. My husband thinks that I believe all kids should be banish to the 7th plane of hell and be tortured there, but I just do not know anymore. It is easy to say, I hate kids, blah blah blah, and then just go about your merry way, but I honestly do not think that is where I am at. Or, I just do ( Read more... )

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idav5d January 30 2010, 16:49:18 UTC

When I got married, my was was (supposedly) unable to have kids. Our first anniversary was our first Lamaze class.
Kids are life altering in a way that cannot be understood by the uninitiated. As much as I love my kids, sometimes they are an overwhelming pain in the ass. I cannot imagine a world without them.

Hell is populated by 9 year old boys. They are that way because most male brains don't begin to sprout and grow a left side until they are 30 or so. Even then some are lost because they are pickled in too much tesosterone.

To be fair, an equal number of women are the polar opposite and never grow beyond talking endlessly about their touchy feelyness.

Balance is the key and most of us do get close.

viylette January 30 2010, 17:05:29 UTC

I do believe balance is the key, but Michael thinks it is hiw way or not at all, and I just can not work in those parameters. And I can not explain how much this frustrates me, he just says I will get over. He believes his kids can do no wrong and just loves having them around, which I understand. While I like having Marley around, I just cringe at the mere thought of Evan being in my house.

And while I do not specifically have children, I do not think Michael should just dismiss anything say regarding child rearing. I told him, I did help raise 2 children while I was a teenager, and I HATE hearing "you just do not have kids, you would not underastand", or "that is not the same as rasing your own kids". UGHHH, that statements alone sends me into a tizzy, like you would not believe. Because, I am apprently so retarded, I can not figure out aspects of child rearing. Hell, dogs figure that out, why can't I?

I just do not undersand why his kids can not have rules in my house. I just get pissed thinking about it.

idav5d January 30 2010, 21:20:09 UTC

I'm with ya... Kids need boundaries and guidance. It's up to the parent to decide what's appropriate, a smack on the ass, a hug, or a rake and a yard full of leaves. IMHO parents who don't discipline as needed are doing their kids and the rest of the world a disservice.

viylette January 31 2010, 15:04:50 UTC

Again, that is the major problem with Michael. He does NOT discpline his kids. Not at all. I do not care what they do, never does anything. Five tmes telling them dinner is ready, nothing. Three times telling them to brush there teeth, nothing. And forget abut spanking them. He threatened me with leaving me, if I ever laid on a hand on his kids. And I basically told him, that he did not have wait until that day, leave now.

And I have told him he is doing a dis-service to his kids, but he just does not get it. Oh well. Like I said. A ticking time bomb.

vikingprincess January 30 2010, 17:24:45 UTC

Michael mistakenly thinks that if he ever corrects his children, or even doesn't give them exactly what they want exactly the second they want it, they will stop loving him and he will not be their friend anymore. In actuality, he needs to worry much more about the kind of people he is 'helping' them to become ( ... )

hdiandrew January 30 2010, 18:49:02 UTC

Children are creatures of pure id. The parents have the fun of helping with the ego and superego, says the man who has no kids (that he knows of).

viylette January 31 2010, 15:07:02 UTC

LOL.

Well, I honestly do EVER want to help that kid. Devil spawn, I say.

lrainey January 30 2010, 21:23:35 UTC

It sounds to me like the worse problem is that he is dismissing your feelings about Evan. He's making excuses for Evan's bad behavior, removing all of your power to help do anything about it, and making you feel entirely unimportant in that aspect of his life. That's a problem. It's disrespectful to you and needs to be fixed. If ya'll haven't worked through this any with a counselor, I think you should. He needs to hear from someone neutral that what he is doing is inappropriate. It's not like he has a lot of experience dealing with a 9 year old boy either...he's learning as he goes...just like all parents and step-parents do. I'm sorry, dear.