Comments | violetnotshrunk: I'm looking too much into this.

violetnotshrunk

I'm looking too much into this.

Mar 23, 2009 17:40

I like simple and dislike labels. This has always complicated relationships for me. For some apparent reason, if two people spend a considerable amount of time together, make it obvious that they have romantic intentions, and go on dates it is still not necessarily dating unless blatantly stated.

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Comments 8

spitfiresnc March 24 2009, 00:55:44 UTC

I don't know what dating means to others but to me it kind of is the period where you're still trying each other out. the bf/gf stage is after that.

I think while you might not like the labels and what-not talking about your status can help avoid hurt feelings down the road. If you are snuggly and cuddly now and not talking about how exclusive or not you are to each other, someone could get a nice slap on the face later on.

I think the dating labels aren't for yourself, they are for others. If you aren't dating each other, then you are free game for others to pursue ... and let's face it ... you are hot little number.

violetnotshrunk March 24 2009, 02:51:15 UTC

Talking about exclusivity isn't an issue. The talking thing works well with us, and we've expressed mutual trust. There are just some things between people that don't need to be said, such as the fact that we both assumed we were together.

I simply blew up with other people pushing labels without the couple feeling it was appropriate at the time.

bark2themoon March 24 2009, 02:25:12 UTC

I think we, as a society, need to be mature enough to one day just ask the question, "So, are you fucking him/her?", and then, if the answer is yes, take that as, "And no, they are not for you to try and shoot your DNA at for the time being." We are a possessive, territorial lot, we humans; not just men, but women, too. Then there is also the policing side of us that likes to know, OH, if you two are "an item', can I tattle on one of you if I catch you so much as looking at another person strangely?

Yes, I'm sounding bitter in a retarded way here, but my point is, generally, people are just dumb sheep. You know it's true ;-)

violetnotshrunk March 24 2009, 02:52:42 UTC

Baaaaa.... Baaaaa. :D

ecfrost March 24 2009, 14:47:01 UTC

Wow...okay at least some people took the mature approach in this. I think as long as you and Bootstrap are comfortable then screw what other people think. I had that issue at the beginning of dating Gary and it was with people who were his friends first. I think, as well, just cuz it doesn't exist on facebook doesn't mean it doesn't exist. I am not listing myself as "in a relationship" because who the hell needs to know?

I hope things keep going well with you and Mitch!

bark2themoon March 24 2009, 20:03:01 UTC

Dear GOD yes, can we please stop using facebook as a basis for someone's existence? I mean, you could have grown an extra toe, but just because it wasn't given in your status on facebook, doesn't mean you don't have it.

People who use that site as a source of what is going on have lost the ability to be human, I think. They need more interaction with their "friends" in real life.

violetnotshrunk March 24 2009, 23:33:19 UTC

Facebook didn't tell me real life exists, so I don't really know what to think of your comments...

Hee hee hee

ecfrost March 25 2009, 03:24:16 UTC

haha so true. And yeah we should stop using facebook as a basis for existence (says me lol)