More Fun with Trend Journalism

[vinnie_tesla]

One of my flaws as a blogger is a reluctance to swing at the really easy pitches.

CNN ran a story earlier this week that was crying out for me to make fun of it, but I just can't think of anything all that clever to say. The gist: Some married couples don't have a lot of sex

Comments

[vinnie_tesla]

Yeah, it may well be that we're allowed to count those as extreme sports.

Or perhaps you're just mistaken. You guys think you've been having an awesome sex life, but it's actually an illusion.

[doomtart]

The gist: Some married couples don't have a lot of sex.

With each other? snicker

Actually the majority of our married friends don't have a lot of sex with each other, mainly because they hate each other. In fact they can't stand each other so much they can't even indulge in hate sex anymore. And they are always critisizing our marriage and making dire predictions that we shall soon too be non-lustful and ever hateful as them, all while making passes at us.

[vinnie_tesla]

Skeevy, but not actually logically inconsistent, I suppose.

And a great excuse to say, "Sorry, but I'm having way too much fun at home to bother with bitter ol' you. Ptbbbbbb!"

[fierceawakening]

So when my sex life flags, I should do the one thing that renders me less interested in sex than in watching paint dry.

Who'd have thunk it?

[yagagriswold]

Wow. I was struck by a couple of things in that article

[fierceawakening]

Are the authors really suggesting that working toward long-term sexual satisfaction is fruitless? If so, why go on to offer advice to their readers on addressing the issue?

Yeah, that *really* pissed me off. No, I've never been in a relationship for more than two years, but really... I simply cannot *imagine* that I'd desperately need to break up with someone because we'd stop fucking. I don't partner with people who have any interest in stopping fucking, and given tha6 I tend to want sex even more often when someone I care about does and it makes me feel good... yeah, doesn't parse.

I mean, I know there's supposedly this less drive thing that happens, and maybe it would, but I can't imagine it would ever drop to zero. I just don't partner that way, and I'm more eager when I'm partnered, tyvm.

[yagagriswold]

But why don't they also suggest the opposite? Clearly, for many, it is finding their way to *female dominance* that ignites their sex lives.

I agree with Vinnie that setting this dynamic apart as the only one that deserves a specific mention is an indication that its proponents think it is the One True Way.

[yagagriswold]

We're clearly reading this differently. Where do you see a reference to female dominance as the norm? Or, to female dominance at all?