The best and only thing you can really do to find out is ask. Anything else will be speculation and give that worry monkey in your head a place to act. Talk to her, talk to her, talk to her.
It's good that you're concerned about her. If you can express that genuine concern and care outwardly towards her in a way she can understand, the way you showed it in this letter, that'll probably make a world of difference right there.
Also, if thinking about why she might be acting that way gets you to thinking about what things you've done could lead to that, then that's a great opportunity for you. You see things you could do differently that might be more welcoming or engaging for her--do them anyway, even if that's not the reason. It can't hurt the situation and will probably do something good for both of you.
Aimee has ALWAYS been that way.... i lived with her twice and both times... the same result.
She does seem to take too much too personally... but don't stop overwmphasizing how genuine you care and your actions mean well... she'll get used to it eventually.. it took me forever to have her accept me as just a nice person and as someone who cares about her as a friend and a room mate.
She is extremely private... :( sorry yyou had to experience her that way... she's a great room mate other-wise.
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anonymous
September 30 2006, 18:41:13 UTC
Maybe she thinks you want more than friendship and she's scared to tell you that's all she wants? or scared that even though she tells you, you may not be satisfied w/ only that. maybe she's just a private person and feels you're watching what she does too closely. or maybe she knows she owes you something and doesn't know how to pay you back (not necessarily monetary) ... or ...maybe she's just a private person. ...that's why i acted standoffish with my roomates in the past. i miss you.
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It's good that you're concerned about her. If you can express that genuine concern and care outwardly towards her in a way she can understand, the way you showed it in this letter, that'll probably make a world of difference right there.
Also, if thinking about why she might be acting that way gets you to thinking about what things you've done could lead to that, then that's a great opportunity for you. You see things you could do differently that might be more welcoming or engaging for her--do them anyway, even if that's not the reason. It can't hurt the situation and will probably do something good for both of you.
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She does seem to take too much too personally... but don't stop overwmphasizing how genuine you care and your actions mean well... she'll get used to it eventually.. it took me forever to have her accept me as just a nice person and as someone who cares about her as a friend and a room mate.
She is extremely private... :( sorry yyou had to experience her that way... she's a great room mate other-wise.
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...that's why i acted standoffish with my roomates in the past.
i miss you.
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