Comments | vigilante_wake: I probably shouldn't be taking the time to do this, but I need to vent.

vigilante_wake

I probably shouldn't be taking the time to do this, but I need to vent.

Jul 29, 2007 22:54

I was planning on skipping my four-hour-long sociology class tomorrow so I would have time to finish a paper that's due on Tuesday. However, after reading this week's assignment for sociology, I'm not sure I can afford not to be there ( Read more... )

comics, sociology, feminism, class

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starsandsea July 30 2007, 18:48:21 UTC

WTF? to all of the rape stuff. I mean... wha...? I'm speechless.

vigilante_wake July 30 2007, 20:05:49 UTC

Seriously! I'm at a loss as to why my teacher assigned that article.

wispywillow July 30 2007, 21:32:06 UTC

WTF indeed! Wow. Um, what kind of crack does one have to smoke in order to--never mind. It's giving me a headache just thinking about it.

On a lighter note, today's Friendly Hostility made me snort-laugh! I LOVED the image of Charlotte kicking Fox out of the door while carrying Derringer over one shoulder and hauling her dad out with the other arm. Classic! *cackles*

vigilante_wake July 31 2007, 02:33:48 UTC

I really wish I knew. I was just...flabbergasted after reading that article. Taking steps to prevent yourself from being raped means you hate men!

Oh my God, Friendly Hostility has just been so awesome lately! Poor Fox. His hair is still on fire.

jij July 31 2007, 03:00:11 UTC

Cooke is leaving the Spirit? Noooo! I just bought the first TPB! *sniffles*

Most of the DCU's villains are being shot-off into space all Hulk-style. They're going to be sent to their own planet because people on earth are sick of dealing with them.

Uh, won't this make all the other titles rather dull? Or is this another one of those, "Amazons are attacking Washington, but no one in any of the other books seems to notice" things?

Total wtfness on your reading there. I mean, I suppose it's good to consider both sides, but...to just tell women they shouldn't be afraid and shouldn't prepare seems rather disingenuous--I mean, unless you're advocating much stricter and well-enforced rape laws, but somehow I doubt that...

vigilante_wake July 31 2007, 18:47:31 UTC

Cooke is leaving the Spirit? Noooo!

It's terrible! No matter who follows him, it won't be as awesome. Cooke and the Spirit were perfect for each other.

This is probably me being paranoid, but I'm really afraid that DC is going to give The Spirit to Frank Miller because he's writing and directing the movie.

Uh, won't this make all the other titles rather dull? Or is this another one of those, "Amazons are attacking Washington, but no one in any of the other books seems to notice" things?

Yeah, I'm imagining Batman and Robin sitting around the Bat-cave playing I-spy to kill time. I guess the series is just a mini, and that it ends with Lex Luthor building a rocket that enables him to get back to earth and administer vengeance or something. They mentioned that villains are disappearing in Countdown last week and I guess it plays in to the big Bat-book cross-over that's coming up ( ... )

jij August 1 2007, 12:09:12 UTC

This is probably me being paranoid, but I'm really afraid that DC is going to give The Spirit to Frank Miller because he's writing and directing the movie.

Oh God, the thought had crossed my mind as well! I could hardly imagine a more horrible juxtaposition!

And that was probably a lot more information than you wanted to know ; ) *hugs*

No, not at all! :) I fret about knee-jerk reactions as well, but that passage you point out: "Some of these might be a good idea"? Um, exactly which of those are not a good idea? The very fact that he could imply that women shouldn't learn self-defense or set clear limits (and those are two of the most "out there" suggestions, the rest are mostly basic safety knowledge) is really telling.

vespa331 March 30 2008, 00:30:12 UTC

That's a really fucked up strange article. It sounds like it didn't mention any kind of extreme behavior. That's all stuff that I'm constantly (and futilely) telling my female friends. And I usually go even a little further (don't wear skirts in potentially unsafe situations, never leave a drink alone at a bar, etc), but I wouldn't say I'm crazy paranoid. Other people have said that, but I know 11 people that have been raped/sexually assaulted, so I say - Screw y'all, I'ma be cautious. But that doesn't mean I think all men are rapists, far from it. Three of the victims I know were attacked by the same man, there doesn't need to be an even ratio of attackers to victims. Argh, I hate it when people blow off the danger, and I really really hate the attitude that that guy is promoting. There's nothing wrong with caution. And what the hell is up with that "miscommunication" thing, I've never even heard that before ( ... )

vigilante_wake March 31 2008, 05:39:19 UTC

I'm curious to hear your opinion about something - how do you feel about talking about rape/sexual assault?I feel like I'm a better authority on the subject now then I was when I wrote this entry. I'm not in college right now; I'm working at my county's Coalition Against Domestic Violence. I man our crisis hotline, work in our DV/homeless shelter, and I'm a patient advocate for victims of sexual assault. I think most of the LJ entries I wrote about my job are f-locked, but I've added you as a friend so you could go hunt 'em down if you wanted ( ... )

vespa331 April 6 2008, 18:11:06 UTC

Hm, I probably will go through your entries on this sometime. I think you know what I mean when I say that even though it hasn't happened to me, the anger over it builds up and I have to let it out somehow, I need to talk about it sometimes but so few people want to. Most of the time people make me feel like some kind of freak for thinking about it so much, which really makes me cringe for how the actual victims must feel. Your job must be so difficult, I really admire you for trying to help. I should try and volunteer at a shelter when I return home.

second so that the person who did that to me would be prosecutedI think the thing that frustrates me most about the 11 people who have been assaulted is that not one single attacker was convicted. Most of the victims never went to the police at all. The attackers were boyfriends or family members most of the time, and I guess they felt trapped. One girl was raped by a highway patrol police officer so what the hell do you do then? I would make noise about it, but I understand that it's ( ... )

my comment was too long vespa331 April 6 2008, 18:11:31 UTC

At a training meeting we were both at, she asked if everyone in the room who had been sexually assaulted in the past would raise their hand.
Wow. Yeah, that's rather callous. Maybe she was just trying to make a point, but victims generally aren't going to just out themselves like that. I'd known everyone who told me for a long time, and even then they usually just mentioned it once and didn't want to talk about it in depth.
I think victims of sexual assault are more likely to speak out if they know of other people who have spoken out as well.I think that's true. I've also always wondered if I really do just happen to know a lot of victims by some freak coincidence, or if there's something about me that makes them open up (meaning that everyone knows a lot of victims, but most people don't realize it because they never talk about it). It's possible that I made some comment about knowing a victim or had a rant, and they filed it away and decided that I was a safe audience, I don't know. I wish I could help them more. How did you get ( ... )

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