when things get hard for me, my tendency is to question my path. i look back at choices to determine where i made the mistake. the assumption being that if i did things right things wouldn't be so hard
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Even if there is a better choice you could have made, sometimes you're not yet in the place to learn from it. Some lessons I could only understand after gaining the maturity to look back from a different perspective.
I don't know if things are "supposed" to be hard, but just think about what you can do to deal with it now, or if it is something which will pass and you can endure. Enduring indefinitely, that's the part you got to watch out for.
self-criticism takes a lifetime for most to master. being over-critical of self is a step ahead of the game, but it's hard to measure because the remedy is backwards from the rest of everyon else.
the danger with the "right" path is that it's paved with worry. the possibility of mistakes, and the experience we gain from them, leads us to be more careful and take smaller steps. but how can we get anywhere if we only take small steps?
one solution is to disregard the "rightness" of a path and, rather, focus on how we walk it. small trusting steps have their place, but they're not any more or less important than the stomping leaps and bounds--or the falls and tumbles that accompany them.
we should rise from our mistakes, with newfound awareness, but also with further confidence that we can rise again from our next mistake.
you probably do most things "right" every day but don't remember to pat yourself on the back for those things. anyway doing everything the "right" way would make life so boring.
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I don't know if things are "supposed" to be hard, but just think about what you can do to deal with it now, or if it is something which will pass and you can endure. Enduring indefinitely, that's the part you got to watch out for.
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the danger with the "right" path is that it's paved with worry. the possibility of mistakes, and the experience we gain from them, leads us to be more careful and take smaller steps. but how can we get anywhere if we only take small steps?
one solution is to disregard the "rightness" of a path and, rather, focus on how we walk it. small trusting steps have their place, but they're not any more or less important than the stomping leaps and bounds--or the falls and tumbles that accompany them.
we should rise from our mistakes, with newfound awareness, but also with further confidence that we can rise again from our next mistake.
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