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[victorianautumn]

Talked to my dad today. He says that he's obviously bothering me, and that he doesnt wanna make things harder for me. He's seems pretyy certain about me moving out. However, right when he's certain, I'm not. I mean, I fear that Im being too hard on him and not focusing on the good aspects of living with him. My issues revolve around other people,

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[ghosts]

Getting out of one stressful, potentially abusive and controlling situation/environment will only serve to make your life easier. I have doubts about moving out myself, but you do what you have to in order to survive. ♥

[victorianautumn]

Well your situation is slightly more threatening. I do see what you mean though... The problem for me is identifing the issue as stressful.

Like I said, when you come to be somewhat of an adult, with more of a sense of who you are... Parental restrictions can always be a downer in the case I think.

[ghosts]

I'm not talking about myself here at all. I think, in your case and how you've described it, you shouldn't be there. One of the biggest factors in your depression and self-doubt lies in what your father tells you and that isn't something anyone should live with. Controlling parents are like controlling spouses and it's a form of abuse.

Hate seeing friends go through that. However, don't leave it to others to make a decision such as moving out, for you. Ultimately it is your choice and only you can make it. It doesn't hurt inquiring about the apartment/housing, however. Just state you're interested. No promises to rent have to be made.

[victorianautumn]

I guess so. He can be controlling, and confusing at times. He sees me as a child and that its his role as a parent to decide things for me I think.

Of course, only I can make the decision. Yes, thats true... I can state that im interested. I just get a bit anxious about these things you know : P

[schwarzfahrerin]

You shouldn't have doubts because you're feeling guilty... if anyone should be feeling badly, it's him.

I think you should check out the other place, just to see. It doesn't mean you have to commit to anything right away.

[victorianautumn]

Yeah I guess. I think he is feeling badly though... Which is what sparks my guilt I guess.

I think I might, and I'll look into other places too.