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[mafianurse]

does anyone have any suggestions as to what i should do about thanksgiving?im going to my familys house and im wondering if i should bring my own food.my bf says thats rude, but they dont know im vegan bc i never talk or see them.i know its kinda far away but i cant stop thinking about it.

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[o_lucky_man]

It's not rude. Do what you need to do.

[ksatyr]

Contact them now and make sure they know you're vegan and just exactly what that means. Bring food as a backup plan, it isn't rude, you need to eat. What would be rude is to sit stoically at the table, asking what was in each dish and then refusing to eat anything, especially if you never told them in advance of your dietary requirements in order to give them time to come up with something you could eat!

[socraticomatic]

I'd bring my own "main dish", and enough of that to share, and contact them to ask how they'll be doing the vegies (with butter?), possibly you can partake of those along with everyone else.

You really only have to eat enough to seem as if you're "joining in" and don't feel left out. You could eat beforehand so you don't feel bad about not getting a full square meal out of it.

[storytellerslie]

yeah, just let them know and offer to bring your own food. Last year, my grandmother bought me a can of vegetarian baked beans, which would have been my dinner had I not brought more food (plus my favorite aunt also made me a vegan dessert!)

[matt_nothing]

No time like the present to let them know you're vegan. Way better to shoot off an email and let them know now than to have it make a big scene at a family gathering.