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vaneramos

ADD

Mar 26, 2014 17:37

This may or may not surprise people who have known me well, but I was recently diagnosed with Attention Deficit Disorder, the inattentive rather than hyperactive mode. I have recognized problems going back to grade school ( Read more... )

mental health, creativity, attention deficit

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ADD anonymous March 27 2014, 01:40:23 UTC

Hi Van, I am sorry that you are plagued with this but glad you now have some answers that can help. I also can ditto everything you said about stages of your life; daydreaming, good grades, car scrapes & accidents; never staying in long-term employment so became self-employed 30 years ago. tried a full-time position for a year & lost my "humanity"
I have been using concerta for 6 months. Don't want to turn your blog into an advert for the drug but it has helped a bit. Good luck on the rest of your journey!

turning 51 this year
tlm

Re: ADD vaneramos March 27 2014, 01:59:14 UTC

Thanks for adding your story and good luck to you as well.

e_musings March 27 2014, 12:44:49 UTC

My husband and son both have ADHD. And so do my sisters and my father had it, too. I guess it is rampant on both sides of my family!

Son and husband diagnosed at the same time. It explained so much! Like why he was unable to complete tasks from beginning to end. I am linear, he is serpentine. It's just different once I understood the process he works with. One time he left a half wrapped gift on the floor. In the past, I would have been annoyed, but I just left it alone. My daughter walked past it, and commented that that must be Dad's doing...eventually he finished. I would *never* do that. It's just not how I am wired.

Once we figured out we are wired so differently, life became easier. I do admire his energy!

vaneramos March 28 2014, 04:56:46 UTC

I am not so bad about leaving things unfinished, but I'm bad about leaving them lying around because if I don't need it I don't see it. Things usually only get put away because I need use of a clear surface, or to make a room hospitable (i.e. tidy) for a guest. In my own office I can step over an object on the floor for weeks and not know it is there ( ... )

e_musings March 28 2014, 21:40:02 UTC

Living with someone w ADHD has been a valuable asset for doing couple counseling-I use a framework of change vs acceptance. What can change, what do you have to accept? ADHD is one of those acceptance things.

That said, I can become very annoyed if the scissors are not in their designated place because someone forgot to return them. Don will trash our guest room with stuff-papers/things/clothing, etc but will take clean it up if we need to use it. I'm not fussy about that.

Sometimes, it is hard to live with him, but most of the time, it works pretty well!

I wonder what my eccentricities are...blind to those!