I'm sure this doesn't help while you're in the midst of it, since obviously we can't control who we have feelings for or just "get over it" even when we know we logically should...
But in my experience, the people worth putting your energy into are the ones who are going to put that energy back into you. So yeah, like you're basically saying, look at this as a way to feel relieved that it'll help you get over someone who is clearly not worth your time/attention.
The right person will jump through hoops and go out of their way to spend time with you and they will not make it difficult and frustrating to do so!
yeah, I'm not in the midst of it anymore (what's going on now is more like, "hmm, he seems [seemed] like a cool person but I just"), so what you're saying makes perfect sense. I'm more annoyed that he ignores me, not even for "hey can we hang out?" but for "hey, can I buy a ticket to your concert?", after multiple fb notes about "message me for a ticket" and his saying he'll reply whenever I saw him in person, because it is objectively pretty dickish (especially for a youth pastor? lol), which I couldn't see when I was in the middle of it (I do this weird thing where I try to explain away character flaws which isnt terribly healthy but oh well), at the same time I don't want to be mean back and not go when I clearly said I would, but ATM, I could probably legitimately find more enjoyable (or necessary) ways to spend $18 dollars and it appears it won't negatively impact him anyway xD In other words, is it "forgiving" to go or is it honestly a waste of time that might also reawaken feelings that arent helpful
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But in my experience, the people worth putting your energy into are the ones who are going to put that energy back into you. So yeah, like you're basically saying, look at this as a way to feel relieved that it'll help you get over someone who is clearly not worth your time/attention.
The right person will jump through hoops and go out of their way to spend time with you and they will not make it difficult and frustrating to do so!
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