Of ignorance and malice

[twistedsyx]

In my experience if the option comes up that you think someone is doing intentionally doing something to hurt you, or they just didn't know that it would hurt your feelings, I honestly don't trust that they would be smart enough to be mean on purpose. For serious

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[staxxy]

This is my opinion as well. I work very hard to be very clear with my boundaries, and if someone crosses them before they know where they are, then I forgive the ignorance that first time.

But when someone crosses my boundaries and has been told on numerous occasions where they are, then it starts to count against them. I have a three strikes policy for more minor infractions, and a much more rigid policy for the really big stuff (examples from my past include manipulating my mother and identity theft).

My boundaries tend to be pretty far out there, so even coming close to them is pretty damn rare. To actually *cross* those lines takes some pretty serious effort.

And even then, most of the time I don't take it personally at all. I cut the offenders out of my life because I don't to have perpetrators of such bad behavior around, but (as you have also pointed out) most people aren't actually trying to be malicious.

Sincerely and from the bottom of my heart, you are absolutely the most amazing

[nait]

ly enormous faggot.

Faggot.

Re: Sincerely and from the bottom of my heart, you are absolutely the most amazing

[nait]

(And if you think THAT'S mean...)