Why my birthday smells like feet...

[turtlegirl082]

this was kind of hard for me to write, I guess, and I thought I would post it here in front of my friends before posting it on the blog site I post to. Any advice is welcome.

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[soselfishsosory]

my honest opinion about this is to allow yourself more time to think about the changes you've made to yourself since then. looking at how different you are, regardless of whether or not you were fragile back then, should make you feel more comfortable about something that had happened while you were different from who you are. When you can distinguish the differences perhaps it will be easier for you to understand it and for you to explain it better. If being patronized is still a fear or still happening, explain the differences to your man and why those differences are important to you.

and remember, you can control how you're perceived if you just talk about it, especially in a lovers' situation.

i'm on percocets, so i hope this makes sense.

[turtlegirl082]

I have said things to him about this, well not that persay, but about not wanting to be patronized. It still happens though. It's always "Oh careful baby." "Don't hit your head." "That's too heavy baby." I said flat out that I have been single for a lot longer than a good chunk of girls so I've learned to take care of myself.

I'm also not so sure I need to tell him. I barely dwell on this at all and I don't know what got me to even thinking about it. This one morning I woke up and was like "ohhhhh yeahhhhh that happened." and ever since then i've been wondering if it's something that is really important to tell since I clearly forgot about it for almost 2 years now.

[soselfishsosory]

thats another good point. you may want to keep that to yourself. maybe telling him is almost portraying vulnerability because you want some sort of reaction or at least for him to have the knowledge to comfort yourself (I know comfort is the wrong word but I can't really think of anything else).

Then again, you should be able to tell someone you love anything.

Maybe you feel like if you wanted to you couldn't because that's how he is, and you want to resolve that feeling of being patronized more than being able to tell him what happened two years ago. more to come when i see you tomorrow.