Comments | tuberatn: I gotta rant ....

tuberatn

I gotta rant ....

Jul 01, 2012 21:50

and facebook just isn't good for that. also, the person who has set this rant off is there and i can't 'cut' her because she's a coworker and i'm her ride. it's how she contacts me on a general basis.
firstly, i usually don't mind things she says. it would get boring at work if we didn't talk with each other, and the days would drag. she loves books ( Read more... )

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scavengerchild July 2 2012, 06:12:24 UTC

I'm sorry you're having to deal with this woman and the total bullshit that she's spewing. Some older people will do that, and then for some reason expect you not to take it personally or get mad. Also, you're right, if your child is hurt or in danger, it doesn't matter how, where, or how old they are, it's your child and you will worry.

No matter what she says, you're better than her words. You're a good person and you're a good mom and wife. She can say whatever the hell she wants, but you live your life how you want to and need to. *hug*

tuberatn July 3 2012, 07:13:06 UTC

*HUGS* thanks sam
you know i miss you!!!!

xujof July 2 2012, 11:04:34 UTC

Mmmmm... Kudos.
I agree, the worry for a child is universal whatever danger the child may be in. In many cases I think it's worse for parents of younger children because in the end, it's very much in the hands of the parents how an event pans out. Where someone is the parent of a soldier, that soldier made the conscious decision to enter the military, and while the parent may not like it (thus why they may feel that they feel their worry more keenly), it was a decision made by an adult rather than the child the parent still wants to protect.

The phone anxiety happens the other direction too. Every time I get a phone call from the house phone at work (we have caller ID at work), I get a little sick to my stomach because that's how I was notified that my Mom and Dad were going to the hospital.

tuberatn July 3 2012, 07:15:31 UTC

yeah, i tried to note the phone anxiety as well. i was informed of 2 family deaths (my grandfather whom i'd been spending time with and helping out with once a week every week up until that point) and a very close uncle of mine. and i KNEW that i'd be getting those phone calls as well. so i KNEW to be worried that the phone would ring....and hoped it wouldn't.

anyway, thanks *HUGS*

tenaya_owlcat July 2 2012, 20:10:42 UTC

Wow, she's quite the special snowflake, isn't she? Worry for a child is worry for a child--there's no "one-up-manship" if your kid is in the military. I'd have yelled at her too. *hugs*

tuberatn July 3 2012, 07:17:08 UTC

jsut a bit. according to her, i'm also "terminally unique". i'll say something random and next thing you know she's saying that. and she says it like its a bad thing (hence the terminally part, obviously) and that there's such a thing as being TOO different then everyone else. i don't care about being different. i want to be myself. if thats different than her, what does it matter?

and agreed - there should be no one up manship. *sigh*
*HUGS* thanks gryph!

moonsinger July 2 2012, 23:01:56 UTC

That last part where you said she is 30 years older than you, that is the key part. She's old enough to be your mother; therefore, she sees you as a daughter figure. If you want to remain friends you have two paths to go on this 1) politely remind her that you value her friendship, but you'll do x thing your way, or 2) you can simply ignore her gems.

As an only child myself, I'm certainly not a duplicate of my parents. My parents are both fairly traditional religiously and I am not. Only children learn to self-soothe, they are very imaginative, and if they are bookish (like I was) they usually do well in school. None of these traits are bad things.

Good luck dealing with the situation.

tuberatn July 3 2012, 07:20:26 UTC

mostly, I've been ignoring her gems. but that one just hit too hard for me to do so. this is the only time we've ever got 'nasty' with each other. most of the time we get along just fine, but the gems just gnaw at me.

but I'm glad to know that the opinions i have on her opinions concerning my daughter being an only child are not just whims of my own fancy, and that my daughter will be who she will be, which will not be wholly and directly affected by our decision not to have other kids.

thanks and thanks *hugs*