Comments | truthinboots: De-mystifying Love

truthinboots

De-mystifying Love

Mar 30, 2005 01:14

I want to be the kind of person who is okay enough with being me that I can give people love independent of receiving it from them. Where I don't have to maneuver and manipulate, convince and cajole them into loving me back, showing me, and proving it to me, for some people in ways that they are incapable of ( Read more... )

relationships, love

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truthinboots March 31 2005, 06:31:59 UTC

Lol, thanks! Uh-oh! *truth's head swells and she topples over*

melomotion March 30 2005, 11:01:43 UTC

what do you think about desire vs. love? cuz i have been in times when i thought i was falling in love with someone but all they ever reciprocated was hurt and abuse. i told myself that i shouldnt expect anything back, but it's still slightly different when when your love is not wanted. and like what you said, i couldnt stop what i was feeling, but i could not give it all away too because the other person didnt want it. :(

truthinboots March 31 2005, 06:42:18 UTC

Mmm. I think desire is an expression of sexual feeling, so it can sometimes be a part of a certain kind of love, but not necessarily in opposition to it. It's really hard when those feelings aren't reciprocated, and even harder when what you get in return is like the antithesis of what you're putting out there (been there, done that). But I do think that sometimes receiving love is hard for people too, and sometimes we have to let our feelings be known and then walk away from the situation. Love makes us no promises when it comes to sanity and emotional health.

melomotion March 31 2005, 12:38:18 UTC

yeah i dont understand why it's hard to receive love (not just romantic)...maybe people dont think they are worthy of it...how odd. but you are very wise, truthinboots. :-D

ex_pepelepu March 30 2005, 14:56:46 UTC

you are correct: Love does not necessitate reciprocity. it is very rare.

solar_plexus June 24 2005, 17:08:22 UTC

you're doing it again.
LOL

truthinboots June 25 2005, 12:10:07 UTC

doing what? (I'm afraid to ask :) )

solar_plexus June 25 2005, 12:13:08 UTC

making me swoon
and guys don't swoon
LOL

guttaperk August 18 2005, 16:12:05 UTC

I utterly agree with what you have written. Love does not establish reciprocity, and love is willing to give with no fear of not receiving. With no fear at all.

But...

In the long term, the absence of thought of reciprocity, the absence of consideration mutuality in a relationship, is not healthy for either party.

Love will be able to set healthy boundaries.

It's the loving thing to do.