Daughter

[trisha77]

We have an 18 year old daughter who is attending the American Broadcasting School. We are proud that she is doing so, only one problem, she told us when she started school she would get a part time job to help out with the expenses. It's taking about $800 dollars a month to do this and she is living rent free with my other daughter. I hate

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[ccupguy]

I don't know, but if she promised to get a job then she should do so. Turn off (or nearly) the money faucet for a while and don't let her intimidate you with threats of dropping out. She's at an age where she should be starting to take responsibilities imho and helping out seems to be a very good way to start with all that.
Good luck with all that Trish. I'm sure it's not easy.
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[trisha77]

Thank you, my friend, I hate to complain, but after paying her insurance on her car,her cell phone bill, money to eat on, and tuition and gasoline money and all she does is run and play on weekends I began to wonder where we had gone wrong! Our other 3 children have always been so responsible. Thanks again for your input!

[ccupguy]

First of all Trisha, you're not complaining, you're simply looking for other people's take on the situation.

I just have one more bit of advice for you guys: talk talk talk and try to really listen to her arguments too. There's always a compromise to be found that both parties can be happy with. So keep talking and it'll all work out.

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[georgiastorms]

I think I would have a little "Tough love" going on right about now. She isn't doing herself any favors by acting like that...she won't accomplish much if she doesn't try harder?

My husband worked full-time, went to school full-time and did not borrow money from anyone. I am about to do the same. People do work while they go to school. I hope you get it worked out soon...don't take the abuse, it can only get worse. Oh yeah, all kids are different so don't beat yourself up because the other three didn't act like that, different time, different personality.

[trisha77]

Thanks for the input, I knew my friends on here would have some advice for me and it really helps!

[pearlbirth]

Yep, that is called ingratitude. You have correctly identified it. Time for her to take responsibility for herself, at least in part.

[issabellablue]

I agree with everything said here. She should at least find a part-time job.

Stick to your guns and don't let her guilt-trip you either, Trisha. They're notorious for that at that age.

[trisha77]

Karen you are so right she has already tried that and we are not going to go for that. We are doing what Guy said and trying to keep communication going and talking this thing through and not have any bad communication but encouraging her. We'll see.

[ljandmewt]

Draw a line and stand firm. After (a date you pick) she will be responsible for coming up with said amout of money herself. Do not give an inch. Tell her "Time to grow up!"

At least, that's what I's do in your place.

Hang in there, hon! *hugs* Love ya!

[trisha77]

Thanks! You always make me feel better about things! Love ya!

[ljandmewt]

You make me feel better too. :) ♥ *hugs*