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My Gift: Acceptance

May 27, 2007 09:52

Note: this is one of the essays I might have submitted for Gifts, had I written for it (though this story, unlike those in the book, is more about me than Girly Girl). I could also have written an essay about unconditional love, one about courage, one about persistence, one about patience, etc., but other women wrote those for me.Like most American ( Read more... )

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delsdia May 27 2007, 17:56:43 UTC

wow. We are a lot alike. Most of your story could have been written as if it was me. My father says I got an inferiority complex from it. I think he is right.
Your daughter is just shining with delight!
Thank you so much for sharing

trinapink May 27 2007, 18:07:13 UTC

How could you not? If you're always told that you have to change to be accepted, that who you are is not OK, how can you not have an inferiority complex?

I'm learning to parent my inner child though, and damn if she isn't turning out to be a strong and competent woman. Definitely someone I would like (though she might have intimidated me 10 years ago).

Thanks for the compliment. My Girly Girl is adorable, is she not? I've been meaning to blog for a year now about that dance recital. Both my kids were THE child everyone talked about during the intermission. I waited because I wanted to post the video, but I can't figure out how to cut the little snip I need from the DVD they gave us.

Anyway, not today. Maybe tomorrow. Today I have a novel to finish! I'm at the denouement*, and it's terribly exciting.

*Did I spell that right? No idea.

trudyj May 27 2007, 23:48:04 UTC

She is fabulous. You are fabulous. I loved reading this.

Yes, I think you spelled denouement correctly.

queenmomcat May 28 2007, 01:15:54 UTC

Sigh. If it's any comfort (and I hope it is!) I would want to know if my (potential) child had Down's syndrome only because I'd want the extra time to prepare my friends and family, put aside a bit of extra money for special education needs, that kind of thing. I do expect that the child itself would be loved, wanted, hoped for and all the things that children ought to be.

trinapink May 28 2007, 01:47:21 UTC

So would I! If I had it to do over again, the one change I would make is that I would do the amnio (carefully researching the doc: miscarrage rates vary dramatically between providers ( ... )

fuzzybutchkins May 28 2007, 02:01:58 UTC

Oh, darling, how can you *not* be fabulous in a leopard leotard and matching wristlets? Or a feather boa? You do have a feather boa, don't you?

fuzzybutchkins May 28 2007, 02:02:46 UTC

And two tiaras! One for all tiara-related fabulousness, and one for emergencies!

thoughtsbykat May 28 2007, 05:32:43 UTC

Great essay and it discloses much about yourself. Thanks for sharing. Girly-girl is fabulous and you are wonderful!