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...women can do hard work, too? And generally don't try to wear make-up during once they're past the teenaged years?
Could you bring a change of clothes for during the club's opening hours, if you have different duties then? And how does a club not have bathrooms with sinks?
There's nothing wrong with women wearing work trousers or boots, so I wouldn't worry about that. Presenting as stereotypical-femme isn't the same as presenting as female, and doesn't help with passing as cis as much as you might think, if that is your goal.
Being female isn't about being forced to be femenine, especially not in the ways our society prescribes. If you're doing a task, then you're doing it as a woman regardless of whether cis society would pidgeonhole it as a masculine or feminine action. If you're going out, then you're going out as a woman. Whether you wear a dress or trousers doesn't change that.
I do conservation work once a week, and I wear work boots, combats and t-shirts. As do the other women in the group. In normal day to day life, like most women, I don't often wear a dress.
Doing physical labor and wearing pants does not mean you "fail" in your transition. At all. In any way.
Like someone else said, bring along a change of clothes, and do your makeup before the club opens. No one other than the employees are there before opening, right? Most women I know (trans or otherwise) wouldn't worry about it unless they couldn't change before the customers started showing up, and some not even then.
Don't give up helping your friend just because you feel you're not meeting some artificial standard of femininity.
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Could you bring a change of clothes for during the club's opening hours, if you have different duties then? And how does a club not have bathrooms with sinks?
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Being female isn't about being forced to be femenine, especially not in the ways our society prescribes. If you're doing a task, then you're doing it as a woman regardless of whether cis society would pidgeonhole it as a masculine or feminine action. If you're going out, then you're going out as a woman. Whether you wear a dress or trousers doesn't change that.
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Like someone else said, bring along a change of clothes, and do your makeup before the club opens. No one other than the employees are there before opening, right? Most women I know (trans or otherwise) wouldn't worry about it unless they couldn't change before the customers started showing up, and some not even then.
Don't give up helping your friend just because you feel you're not meeting some artificial standard of femininity.
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