oh the places we go~

[cykotyks]

Okay, so, here's the basics: my boyfriend and I are both FtM, but we're pre-everything. I've been able to discuss things with a counselor, but neither she nor I had the resources to get me started on HRT or anything. My boy hasn't been able to really discuss this with anybody aside from me, and he's not big on disclosing to therapists/counselors

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[odd_boi_out]

Talk to the Registrar's Office at your school. Sooner would probably be better, just so you give them time to figure things out. They should be able to tell you what they are able to do in terms of changing his name.

I don't know anything about UNH, but if the school has a GLBT or trans group, or an LGBT student center, you could try getting in contact with them and asking about resources, etc. Somewhere on your school's website (on something like a student life page) there should be a list of clubs or organizations, so hopefully there will be some helpful information there.

[cykotyks]

Yeah, I was able to get enough information to know that they had a GLBT group (actually, all four of the colleges we applied to have them - Southern CT's is GLBTIQQA (Gay/Lesbian/Bi/Trans/Intersexed/Queer/Questioning/Allies) which I thought was pretty impressive) and that they were actually trans-friendly and not just tacking the T on there because that's PC or anything. But apart from that, there's not a whole lot of info on the website. We'll probably have to get in direct contact with somebody to figure things out, but I'm seeing if anybody's had any previous experience with them in particular so we can maybe know what to expect before we start running straight into this.

We will send a letter to the Registrar's Office. Thank you :)

[odd_boi_out]

Wowza, your school makes it easy - changing your name was on the list of Frequently Asked Questions. I wish my school had made it this easy! Your boyfriend will still want to talk to somebody about the issue of him not wanting his name changed on everything, though. There may be some other process that they'll need to use.

http://www.unh.edu/registrar/faq/changeofname.html

Some campus resources - there are probably some links to email addresses on this page to people who might know more about counseling, hormones, etc.
http://www.unhcc.unh.edu/resources/glbt_campus-resources.html

[cykotyks]

Ooh, didn't even see that - thanks for the links! I really should scour the site myself xD;; /feels like an idiot

But yeah, we will definitely work with somebody to make sure his status isn't revealed to his parents. I can't imagine that would be anything out of possibility, considering it looks like they deal with name changes a lot.

[aloremipsum]

Before I got my name change I just e-mailed every professor a blanket letter that explained everything. Everyone was very understanding. I actually think it helped me academically because all of my professors knew me which meant I always went to class and participated

[kesnit]

Unless your boyfriend really wants to disclose that he is trans, why go that far?

I just finished my first year of law school with my birth name (which is clearly female) on the class rolls. But I went to every professor and just told them I go by *male name* without saying why. No one questioned it, and they all called me by my preferred name.

[heartttcore]

Find the phone number the Registrar's office and explain the situation to them. My school allowed me to switch my name and email in the system so it just shows up as my first initial and last name (which works for me since my chosen name starts with the same letter as my birth name).

[ftmichael]

I know one or two FTMs at UNH and a couple of other guys who live in that area. If you want to give me your and/or your boy's e-mail addresses, I'll pass them along and see if they're willing to get in touch with you. I have a feeling they'd be happy to chat with you.