The potential complications of vaginoplasty that you list are actually very rare. I'm racking my brains to try and think of anyone I've personally known who has had any of those, and I'm thinking not.
Dilation isn't painful. It's also not as weird as you might think; the brain may the first time have an 'error' moment computing where the dilator is going, but you quickly get used to it. I'm in a lesbain relationship, and we both have a very low sex drive, so the chances of me getting a good poking there is pretty low. To me, I had the full vaginoplasty because I reconed I would have regreted it later if I hadn't. I didn't have much donor material beforehand, but there was enough to make it pretty hard for all but a gynaecologist taking a peek inside to realise it's a neo vagina.
Finally, surgery techniques have come a long, long way since 1994 and are improving all the time. At the end of the day, whatever you do, it's your choice and you should do what is right for you.
I don't think this makes you unsuitable for SRS at all.
In fact, I've actually seen - where, I can't remember, I'm afraid - an article on SRS by a gatekeeper of some kind saying that he can't understand why so many trans women insist on vaginoplasty when it's very unlikely that they're going to have much of a sex life (!), and that it was probably a rather sad comment on their insecurities that they felt they needed to be "complete" women to be authentic. I remembered the article because it was so bloody offensive, but it does suggest that in some medical quarters, at least, to be content with more "superficial" changes might be seen as making you even more suitable.
But I guess it may depend on the practitioner, so I defer to more experienced heads.
soooo difficultauslanderin01May 21 2009, 09:04:49 UTC
...because I have also closed my eyes, tensed my pelvic floor, felt and imagined being in and had to come round very quickly because it was too, too nice and dreamy a feeling.
But yes, that sounds extremely bloody offensive. Does the surgical community tour schools with a slogan, "Wanted, medical students: tactless emotional fuckwits only please"?
Because, of course, vaginas only exist for penises to enter, so if a doctor thinks that no penis will ever enter your vagina, why would you possibly want one? VAGINAS BELONG TO MEN, SILLY GOOSE.
I know that both Messers Thomas and Bellringer offer a "cosmetic-only" SRS option, where you get everything but the vagina. Given that they're Charing Cross' vaginoplasty surgeons, I see no reason why you shouldn't discuss this with the GIC staff.
Personally, although I'm bi, nearly all my sexual accounters are with women. Despite that it doesn't matter if you're poked or not. A vag is a really good access point to the g-spot which is basically what the prostate becomes...
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Dilation isn't painful. It's also not as weird as you might think; the brain may the first time have an 'error' moment computing where the dilator is going, but you quickly get used to it. I'm in a lesbain relationship, and we both have a very low sex drive, so the chances of me getting a good poking there is pretty low. To me, I had the full vaginoplasty because I reconed I would have regreted it later if I hadn't. I didn't have much donor material beforehand, but there was enough to make it pretty hard for all but a gynaecologist taking a peek inside to realise it's a neo vagina.
Finally, surgery techniques have come a long, long way since 1994 and are improving all the time. At the end of the day, whatever you do, it's your choice and you should do what is right for you.
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In fact, I've actually seen - where, I can't remember, I'm afraid - an article on SRS by a gatekeeper of some kind saying that he can't understand why so many trans women insist on vaginoplasty when it's very unlikely that they're going to have much of a sex life (!), and that it was probably a rather sad comment on their insecurities that they felt they needed to be "complete" women to be authentic. I remembered the article because it was so bloody offensive, but it does suggest that in some medical quarters, at least, to be content with more "superficial" changes might be seen as making you even more suitable.
But I guess it may depend on the practitioner, so I defer to more experienced heads.
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But yes, that sounds extremely bloody offensive. Does the surgical community tour schools with a slogan, "Wanted, medical students: tactless emotional fuckwits only please"?
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Then why didn't I get issued one when everyone thought I was a man? Damnit! I knew I was missing something important!
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