Making out with someone who doesn't know...

[belleza_mia]

Hey yall

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[elegancewaves]

I usually get by, by being upfront about who I am and socializing with open minded individuals lol. That way, usually, the guys who ask me out anyway are the pansexual types who don't care. Like my boyfriend lol.

[aki_no_kaze]

well I think you should ask yourself where you want this to go... is there "serious relationship" potential here, or just fun kissing?

if there is a chance of a serious relationship you need to tell him, and sooner is likely better then later. If he won't accept who you are, the sooner you dump him the better... if he will accept you then all the better to know early.

if it is just for fun, then it becomes a little more complicated. Is this the type of guy who will respect your boundaries or will he push them to try and get a little more when things get hot and heavy?

[quietus_touch]

This is all very new to me so I can't help you from the point of veiw of someone who has passed. But, some general advice. Keep the first couple of dates very public, choose situations where holding hands and maybe a small kiss would be the most PDA appropriate. Meet him there, don't have him pick you up. And make a few statements and ask him questions that will help you feel him out as to if he would be accepting or not. Also make sure they are situations where he is not around a bunch of his friends or people he knows, that should reduce any fall out or freak out factor when you tell him. Guys ar infinitely more likely to do something incredibly stupid if they feel they have to live up to a level of machismo to thier friends. I also agree with the above advice,TELL HIM, sooner rather than laterit is better for all involved. Goodluck, have fun, but please be safe.

[melsmarsh]

Speaking as a gay ftm (and thus someone who has all the "right" parts for men to grab), men rarely ask first, they just start groping.

Be careful!

[gallowmere07]

2nd. That being said, I am upfront with guys about myself before we do anything, but yeah, as melsmarsh said, they're much more likely to just reach for a handful of boob than they are to ask about it.

[bchgrl315]

As a general rule I try not to kiss a guy before I have outed myself to him, but sometimes it just happens. I recommend that you try and take it pretty slow with him, go on a couple dates and if he kisses you he kisses you, but don't turn it into a really long make-out session

[belleza_mia]

I live in a big city with good buses and trains. I will be sure not to accept a ride on the first date.

As for friending, I really like to keep my friends list to people I actually know in person. But thanks.