I'm a boy, but my ma won't admit it.

[xxx_pandacross]

Er. First post here, obviously. I also think I may be too young for this community. (There is the completely dead transgendrteens. But I want advice, dammit, so I'm posting here before I do anything rash

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This is an all ages group.

[ftmichael]

Welcome aboard, man. I came out at 15 myself. :) Where in the world are you?

The nice thing about LiveJournal is that you can join more than one community at the same time and get more support that way. Check out transyouth if you're looking for a youth-specific group. You'd probably also get a lot out of genderqueer and our_own_path.

'Hermaphrodite' is generally taken as offensive these days, and even when it isn't, it generally makes you look like an ignorant clod (to be blunt). The word you want is intersex.

Advice like the kind you want is best given by a therapist. See http://www.t-vox.org/index.php?title=Therapists for ones with a clue about gender stuff in your area.

One thing you can do is spend time at http://www.t-vox.org/index.php?title=Trans_101 . Read the whole thing - don't skim, read, even if that means you have to leave it and come back to it multiple times. When it tells you to take out

Re: This is an all ages group.

[xxx_pandacross]

I live in SugarLand, Texas. Not the best enviroment, honestly.

Thanks for all the links~! And I've never heard of intersex. n_n;;; I wasn't meaning to be offensive, of course.

And I actually stayed up 'til one reading Parrotfish last night. I'll be sure to look them up. 8>

Re: This is an all ages group.

[ftmichael]

Oh good, nearish Houston then. Could be worse. Check out transtexas. :)

Re: This is an all ages group.

[xxx_pandacross]

Yeah, I could live with my dad, all the way out in West Columbia. Tiny little town, it is.

Re: Find a counselor

[xxx_pandacross]

I'm already getting counseling for other issues (such as pre-surgery), so I don't know if I could so easily switch. (Plus, I am on Medicaid, and anyone else on it would know it's a pain.)

Thanks.

[general_motors]

you're not too young, you're just the right age

but also i think it's much because of you're age you're unsure about your identity - it might be you are a boy but are not accustomed to the whole thing yet. Or as well you could just be something in between - genderqueer. In time you'll find what is the best for you.

also, i love love love that song

[xxx_pandacross]

Thanks.

Yeah, I've learned this age can be rather stressful and different.

Me too. 8) It's amazing.

[ftmichael]

Actually uncertainty is incredibly common in older folks as well. There may well be more of an aspect of 'I've lived so long as X, I don't know if I'm willing/able to change' than in younger folks, but that's a feeling that everyone gets - no matter how many years it's been, it's been your whole life.

[mesolimbicjoy]

I wish I'd had the good sense to pay attention to those feelings when I was your age. I think you'll be just fine. :)

[xxx_pandacross]

Thanks. :D

[freeko]

I wish I had come out sooner. I had a lot of other things going on. I was trying to survive at that time. But good choice of music too. Love the Who! The first thing is to be still. Don't get stuck but sometimes when it all seems crazy inside your head? just be still and assess everything around you and from there you can chart a course for the future. Reach out, make friends, know you are not alone. Because I felt so alone for a long time.

[xxx_pandacross]

Thanks. And I know what it's like to be alone, but now there are more ways to make friends than ever, so I know there may be someone out there who will support me no matter what.

[freeko]

And I agree with ejcranks find a conseulor. How supportive are your parents. Are they liberal or conservative? But you need a conseulor who will be supportive of you.

[xxx_pandacross]

My parents, well, my mom, is very supportive, but my dad is one of those traditional kinds, and he thinks you don't know jack about yourself if you're younger than eighteen.