Scratches On The Surface
So, I locked that previous entry down to friends only. In the shower, I had a change of heart, and felt I was taking too big a gamble. Even though, once again, I feel I was betraying my principles, and letting fear win the day. But it's not about me anymore
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Keep track of all such correspondence wherein he's made such threats. It seems to me like you may need it on record some day.
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Can't say I disagree. While I think too often folks assume that ANY "enemy" of theirs is a sociopath and unable to be reasoned with, some people actually ARE...while I am not sure this guy is, he certainly seems too wrapped up in his own hate right now to be non-toxic to others. It is not your job to "heal" him, that's his own journey, and that's why mental health professionals get paid for the work they do.
I think your choice was a good one.
You can practice forgiveness and empathy without reestablishing contact (which it sounds like you are doing)...you can free yourself of the burden of considering him an enemy, all in your own head, without the need to reach out to him. Maybe some day he'll sort his shit out, be in a better place, and be reasonable to others. Maybe he won't. I'd let him make the first move, and then decide at that point whether you want to talk to him...till then, don't poke the dog...just my 2 cents.
- SW
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