It's all about the Swedish meatballs today.

[tonguesintrees]

Ugh. Why must Ikea simultaneously be hell on earth and kind of awesome all at the same time? JFC, I hate going at the weekend, but with Leo's new work schedule, we can't go on weekday afternoons anymore. Boo. BUT! We have finally decided on a sofa (for reference, it's this one, in red) so we're going to get that ASAP. We also managed to decide on a

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[earlofcardigans]

Are you friends with a bunch of shut-in introverts? I feel like I am and on top of how when I get home, I just don't feel like talking to anyone because I know I'm going to have to deal with family drama, I don't call/text/email anyone near as much as I used to.

[tonguesintrees]

Hmmm. You might have a little bit of a point with the shut-in introverts theory. Also, I kind of left fandom in a big damn hurry, and a lot of people here on LJ, in fandom, were good friends. And then I had a baby, which would make you think I'd perpetually be the one never calling/texting/emailing, but oddly, I made every effort to keep in touch with people. I think sometimes it just happens, you know? It's kind of unfortunate, but it is what it is.

[lisabellex]

I used to love going to Ikea, hanging out in the cafe and looking at all the great stuff in the store, but I've noticed that the last couple of times I've visited, the cafe has been grubby and staffed by people without much in the way of customer service skills, and the items the store's selling seem less well made and more pricey.

So visiting is not the treat it used to be. Ah well, saves me money in petrol, which isn't to be sniffed at.

It's a shame that you don't feel as close to some people as you once were. I wonder whether their drifting away is related to your evident happiness and completeness in RL? Perhaps they don't feel so integral and 'needed'? Only a thought - who knows! Anyway, I'm always glad to see you pop up on my friends page with baby joyful and your happy news.

Lovely weekend, thanks.

:D

[tonguesintrees]

I guess I've never noticed the relative cleanliness (or lack of) of the cafe, but perhaps because it's sort of cafeteria-style to begin with, my expectations aren't very high! I'm really hit or miss with Ikea items. Some things I think are crap quality and too expensive, some things are crap quality and inexpensive, some things are good quality and cheap, and still other things are good quality and expensive. I think the sofa we've decided on is a bit on the expensive side, but reading reviews of the product, I think it will last us a good while, and more importantly, it was something Leo and I could agree on, which is rare

[juke_box_dive]

I think it's natural to have a kind of ebb and flow to relationships. Interests change, priorities change, and sometimes it's easier to let go and have good memories rather than worry about being a bad friend. Just be, you know? If you've reached out to them to let them know you still enjoy their company and that you're there for them, then you've been a good friend.

[tonguesintrees]

And that's sort of the other side of it! Isn't it better to think about the fun times you had with people instead of being annoyed or angry or hurt that you aren't really very close anymore? This is mostly the way I've chosen to look at things, and it helps, but at the same time, I really miss the connection I used to have with people, and sometimes feel maybe there was more I could have done. But as you pointed out, if I've reached out, then I've done what I can.

[tigertale7]

It's not you; at least not in my case. I just kind of really suck at being a human being these days. I really enjoy the pics of Olivia that you send and I always think about replying but it's always like a day or two later and then it seems like omg it's been so much time and you know the downward spiral from there.

That being whined, physically I do actually feel a bit better these days and so a visit is something that can happen if we can make it work with everyone's schedule. I'd love to see you and Leo and meet Olivia. And I'm going to try very hard not to be a recluse this year, so I'll even e-mail and text more than twice, maybe. ;-)

ILU. Even when I'm being an introverted shut-in.

[tonguesintrees]

Foxy, you are definitely an exception, but I hear what you're saying. I'm very glad to hear that you've been feeling better lately. We'd still love to see you if you're up to it, and since Olivia stays home with me, she's relatively germ-free and won't get you sick like a kid in daycare or school would! :D