Comments | tonguesintrees: Huh. Well, I wasn't expecting that.

tonguesintrees

Huh. Well, I wasn't expecting that.

Feb 24, 2012 11:03

If I think about it, my family has been relatively drama-free my entire life, which has been a good thing, especially after hearing horror stories about other people's families. We're a pretty small bunch, and for the most part, not much of interest usually happens.

( And then there's my grandmother... )

in the family way, the drama llama followed me home

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harborshore February 24 2012, 15:50:41 UTC

I have a very similar grandmother. Let's just leave it at that. My sympathies, bb.

tonguesintrees February 24 2012, 16:02:33 UTC

Little old Scandinavian ladies... What can you do, right? I'm glad that my mother made the choice to be better for her daughters than her mother was for her.

harborshore February 24 2012, 18:58:27 UTC

ME TOO. My mom is awesome.

tonguesintrees February 24 2012, 19:47:55 UTC

Mine, too. And I hope that I can do as well for my daughter as my mom did for me.

whimsyflowers February 24 2012, 16:15:22 UTC

Goodness. That seems pretty random!

Maybe this means it'll be easier for your mom to sort out her feelings and move on. :)

tonguesintrees February 24 2012, 16:45:16 UTC

I suppose it's not terribly random - she was trying to sell her house two years ago when I was leaving Charleston and moving to Florida. I'm not sure why she decided to stay and not sell at that time, but apparently she's serious about it now.

My mom seems to be pretty okay with the current state of things with my grandmother. She called the three of us girls to let us know what was going on in case we wanted to see her/call her before she left, as clearly my grandmother has no intention of telling us herself. Whatever problems she has with my grandmother, she's never tried to interfere with our relationships with her. I think my mom has just had enough of my grandmother's crap, and she's over it. I think it will be really interesting to see what happens.

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tonguesintrees February 24 2012, 18:11:41 UTC

I really wish that the whole vitriol and manipulation thing was an exaggeration. Alas! Seriously, this is the woman who told me when I was seventeen that I couldn't marry Leo and have kids because "they'd be mixed and they wouldn't know where they belong." Charming, no? It's been much less stressful dealing with her now that I don't live in Charleston anymore. I figure her moving back to Philly puts even more distance between us, and if she's going to go on behaving the way that she has done for about half my life, that can only be a good thing. I wish her luck, but I have a feeling she's going to be very disillusioned with her choice eventually.

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tonguesintrees February 24 2012, 19:47:00 UTC

Dude, your grandmother and mine sound like the same person! Lying, cheating, manipulating...yikes! How do they have time for anything else in their day?

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tonguesintrees February 26 2012, 00:43:15 UTC

Or maybe something generational? I have to say that I'm relieved to hear that I'm not the only one with a nutty grandmother, but it sure does make me feel bad for a lot of mothers and fathers.

Hey, more power to her, I guess. I've been a lot less stressed out about her since I moved away two years ago!

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tonguesintrees February 26 2012, 03:54:47 UTC

I'm not actually sure that she knows how to be happy, or even what happiness is, but I hope that she's okay with her decision when my aunt and cousins are over the honeymoon phase and want her to just go away. I can almost guarantee that it will happen.