at what point...

[tippitoes]

... do you end a friendship? I know I have been a bad friend to some people. A few were by choice, a few were by accident or circumstance. Recently a few people that I considered to be my close friends at one time have dissapeared. I have contacted by phone, email and mail. I have sent birthday wishes, packages, congratulations and shared my own

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Too Many Allegories

[morigian]

"There's no such thing as goodbye, meeting again after moments or lifetimes is certain for those who are friends." RB

OR

"Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born." AN

Ahh Love, this is a question of all ages for dreamers and lovers who sparkle and pull in the world around them. Nesting it all just so and like a momma duck having trouble when one seems to go astray.

I think all your answers are true, though not in all circumstances. And, as for cutting off that part of a friendship still attached? You won't. Ever. My personal opinion is it's easiest to let it atrophy. That way you can keep it with you but only need to pay attention when you've decided what happens next.

Accident and Circumstance are the worst.

The sunny side of the street says look to all the wonderful fabulous people who love and adore you. Yes, if you let them, they will make it up to you.

Re: Too Many Allegories

[tippitoes]

I love that you reply to my LJ entries. Sometimes I feel as if this is all just a long, slow conversation between the two of us. :)

I think you're right. I've always known that I have a weakness for the sentimental and I can't easily let go of anything that was once important. Realize, of course, this comment was not in response to my upcoming change in marital status - some kind of mourning for the single life or of past relationships. My engagement did start me thinking about the people I am closest to and how that has changed, where those friendships now stand, the mystery of what lies ahead. Thinking about the people I surround myself with now, I have to think about the absesnce of others. That thing about how not choosing is a choice, music is the space between the notes, absence is the presence of nothing... you get the idea.

Collective Unconscious?

[morigian]

http://wench25.livejournal.com/275726.html

This is someone on Matt's Flist who had a similar thought process recently.