Old and Useless

[timtwoface]

Note: This is not a woe is me post. I am not interested in pity parties for me, they are not deserved. No, this is a post about how upset I am with myself right now

Comments

[surrey_sucks]

Tim, MARRIAGE isn't everything, you know. I can understand wanting to be in a relationship and have someone who cares about you, but must it be MARRIAGE? Why does our society think MARRIAGE is the ultimate goal? Ideally, I'd want to be in a non-legal loving relationship with someone, but no matter how much I love that person, I'd never, ever get married. I've learned my lesson!

I had all sorts of life changing events happen to me very early on in life!

[weatherman2111]

Maybe that's just what he wants? It doesn't have to be "societal programing". If Tim wants to get married someday then he wants to get married someday. I'm failing to see the problem with that. Just saying, that's all.

[surrey_sucks]

You kind of missed my point, but it wasn't very clear.

It's fine if that is what he wants, but he's not a "loser" if he's not "married". (By the way, I can relate to Tim's sentiments of feeling old and like a loser because I haven't accomplished XYZ.)

[weatherman2111]

Ahh, ok. I see.

[garconetfille]

i'm pretty shy too, so i understand how you feel. i used to think that love would come to me when i was ready for it, that the powers that be would just send someone my way. i waited and i waited and i realized that's not how things work. if you want someone, you have to take the initiative, you have to put yourself out there. i KNOW how terrifying it is, i KNOW how hard it is. but when you see someone you're interested in, talk to them. just say hello. if you two are right for each other, you'll be surprised at how quickly things blossom. if not, you lose nothing. just dont beat yourself up if things dont work out with a woman - it's no bad reflection on yourself, it just means she wasn't right for you. there is someone out there for everyone. someone who fits perfectly, someone who loves you BECAUSE of your flaws, not in SPITE of them. you just have to find them

[bunnychicken]

LOL
Hi I'm a random person that really liked your post--and I just wanted to say, Don't let your age restrict you . . . I mean, don't think you are naiive JUST because of your age.

I instantly thought of the BEST advice I had ever heard in my entire LIFE and it came from my 8-yr-old cousin, who very knowingly said, "You can't win everything." *mouth agape*

I'm just saying, your post was SO TRUE. Don't forget to give yourself a little credit. :)

it's funny but....

[crazy_tj]

... I actually hit this point when I was 25 and it hit *really* bad when I turned 26

[tihana_b]

I totally know how you feel because I feel exactly the same. I can't say my life is total crap either, but it's not far when it comes to certain things. Let's hope it will get better for the both of us and soon too.

[90scartoonman]

I'm sorry to hear you're feeling this way. I've had periods of my life like that, and I've never had any luck with women. 29 isn't as old as it used to be, though. As long as you acknowledge your faults and learn from your mistakes, you'll continue to grow and, hopefully, find yourself where you want to be someday.