RL sucks lots

[thorinsmistress]

My boss is an asshole, and made me feel like I am completely inadequate at my job and life in general. I know that "no one can make you inferior without your own consent," but damn it sucks

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[hollyilex]

I really loathe that "no-one can make you inferior without your consent" nonsense. They might not be able to make you inferior but they can sure as hell make you feel that way by clever manipulation and subtle insults. Witholding praise works too.
Document *everything*. Write down everything he says, along with a note (if needed) of his tone of voice, body language etc. Do this for a few days at least. Also record incidents where you felt a "Well done" or similar would have been appropriate but not given. When you have what you feel is enough evidence, either take it to your boss and lay it out or to his/her boss.
Your employer is responsible for your health and safety while you are at work, and that includes your mental health. However, you have to be responsible too, and that means making sure you have dates, times and what was said/not said as evidence.
Good luck :-) You do not deserve to be ill-treated in this way.

[thorinsmistress]

This is essentially what I have decided to do. The words coming out of his mouth may be considered positive reinforcement (though I could argue that, too), but the tone is more of the "I found you on the underside of my shoe."

I just have to get up the gumption to do it. I am EXTREMELY non-confrontational.

thanks for the advice and the sympathy!