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[thisis_myworld]

Hm.

Here's a question.

When someone hurts you... do you forgive and forget? Or do you keep it with you?

On the one hand, holding a grudge is generally looked upon as bad, and some people say it can hurt you more.

On the other hand, how do you know that you're not going to be hurt again?

It's a tricky question, isn't it?

Comments

[sniping_targets]

That all depends on who it is and what they do.

[thisis_myworld]

What would you consider worth holding a grudge over, then?

[sniping_targets]

If it's something small, then I wouldn't want to bother. If it involves hurting someone close to me, it's well worth holding a grudge.

[thisis_myworld]

That's a good answer.

[sanchitakarmic]

When someone hurts you, hurt them back.

[thisis_myworld]

What if you can't, because they're stronger?

[sanchitakarmic]

Then I wait till I'm stronger.

Or hurt them with sneak attacks.

[thisis_myworld]

That works, I guess.

[bentorequests]

Hn. It depends on how bad the trama is?

[thisis_myworld]

Very bad.

[bentorequests]

Learn from it.

[thisis_myworld]

... I wonder if there's anything you can learn from that...

[virtualunknown]

Don't forget, but don't let it consume you.

[thisis_myworld]

When can you tell if it's gotten that bad? And what are you supposed to do about it?

[virtualunknown]

...you start to behave as if you're someone else. You just have to realize it and try to suppress it.

[thisis_myworld]

Hm...

[unforgivencurse]

I try to forgive someone, myself. I don't necessarily ever forget, but I try to see things from their side and at least let them know, if possible, that I've forgiven them

[thisis_myworld]

... What if you try to see it from their side, and it just doesn't make sense?

[unforgivencurse]

Have you tried to talk to them about it?

[Voice]

[thisis_myworld]

[Bitter laughter.]

I don't think that will work.