LJ Idol Season 10, Week 4: "I don't skate to where the puck is..."

[theun4givables]

“Mel shouldn’t move in with us, anymore.” Her words are final; her blue eyes icy

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[uselesstinrelic]

I admit that it took me a little while to sort out who was who and what the living situation was, but I could tell right off that the (your?) ex-wife was certainly domineering

[theun4givables]

I'll admit, this piece was written as last second as it could be, because I had several ideas and none of them wanted to piece themselves together until tonight. So I didn't get much time to clean it up a little to make it a bit easier to read.

This is 100% real -- at least, as far as my memory of it goes. I'm sure Evelyn (the ex-wife) remembers things a bit differently.

Living with us might not have changed anything, If anything, it could've made things worth. Living with Evelyn is... rough. Everything you said about that one line and how it ties into narcissistic individuals -- yep, yep, yep. I'm so glad I got out of that relationship.

Setting boundaries is a thing I'm still working on, right now. And Evelyn is trying to push her way back in, which is... unpleasant, to say the least. It's also the absolute last thing I want, so... yeah.

[uselesstinrelic]

Yeah, noooo, don't. XD My mom got out of an abusive 37 year relationship with my (now estranged) dad. It was jarring to what extents he'd go to try to get his little hooks back into her every time she tried to leave with any seriousness. After all those years, it's done a lot of emotional damage to her as well and she can be sometimes insufferable because she's coped so poorly. It's really sad, but also really hard for those around her.

Nothing good ever comes from letting relationships with narcissists continue, IMO.

[eeyore_grrl]

This is well written. And if this is true, it was rough.

[theun4givables]

Thank you. <3 I didn't get to add my tags in until later, but all of this is true, as well as my memory serves me, anyway.

[bleodswean]

You pulled a lot of painful thorns out of your skin with this one. Life is predictable...until it's not, and it's that sliding away that has us losing the game more often than not.

*hugs*

[theun4givables]

*hugs back* Thanks

I didn't really anticipate to write about Mel this week, but I had several ideas pushing through and this one decided to last minute put itself on the page. I haven't even really had the time to process everything I've put forward here, because you're right that there's a lot of painful thorns present in this piece.

[rayaso]

Hindsight and regret are so difficult. I'm sorry things turned out this way. This must have been very difficult for you to write.

[theun4givables]

It was actually the least difficult thing out of every idea I had to write -- it wrote itself in about 1.5 hours.

It is a very difficult thing to process, though, but writing sometimes helps to get those feelings moving through and purged from my system. I wish things hadn't turned out this way, either, but maybe if I had seen what Mel had seen instead of what Ev had seen, at least maybe she and I wouldn't have grown a bit distant.

[kajel]

Hugs. You are in a much better place and though it can be hard, I am rooting for you and the little man.

[theun4givables]

*hugs back* Thanks. I know I am, but there's still so much to sort through, too. I'm just glad that at the very least I'm as far away from her as I can be