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[theresat]

Things are generally becoming more and more positive lately.  My pregnancy is going well (the baby is healthy, at least, even if I'm having a rough time), my back is healing, I'm generally happier.  However, it keeps coming to mind that the baby I lost in March would have been due about now.  We had an ultrasound Wednesday, and this baby looks

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[lanome]

Personally, I don't think everything happens for a reason.

Morn your losses, and celebrate your gains! If it hurts, it hurts, and there's no point fighting that with "should"s. I'm sure the hurt will dissipate with time, but just because you and Mike are going to have a wonderful family together, doesn't mean you're not allowed to be sad ever again.

Take care of yourself. I'm so glad to hear you're feeling a bit better.

[artisticphoenix]

Keep on chugging away with the little one. I'm glad that this is getting more positive, you deserve some good stuff. Remember that this child has some of my dna! :-)

[crolevey]

I understand. Enjoy this time as much as you can and look forward to what is coming. It really is worth it.

[artisticphoenix]

I absolutely LOVE that Lumineaux has a Russian name for the bebe. :-)

[kaequest]

Oh muffin, I <3 U so much!

I actually have to agree with Noms on this one. I don't think everything happens for a reason. Sometimes seriously fucked up shit happens because the world can be a harsh and terrible place, and sometimes magical unicorn happytimes stuff happens because the world can also be a beautiful and awe-inspiring place. You should mourn the bad and celebrate the good. You loved that unborn fetus and it was also a part of you, so you lost a loved one AND a part of yourself. It actually sounds completely normal to me that you are happy and excited for this baby, and still hurting and mourning the loss of the other. You can feel both feelings simultaneously, that makes you human. We are complicated. The goal is not to feel one feeling too overwhelmingly strongly to the point that it prevents you from functioning and enjoying the present moment. I'd say you are doing fine :)