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Hey, Chicago! How ya doing? This is Phoebe Donovan, coming to you live from my room at the Kashtta Tower! I've got an appletini, a rom-com or two, and all of your pressing answers! Okay, not all of them. But some.Have you ever wanted to write to an advice column and felt kind of silly for contemplating the thought
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What am I supposed to do about
There are so many
[Okay, so she actually does have a normal question. If anything to do with Molly is "normal".]
Okay. So um... this is not actually about you or anything this time. Honest.
What do you do if you want to know if you like someone and you don't really know them? How do you tell if you're going to like them? Do you just spend a lot of time with them and things? What's too much?
Because I guess you might have been able to tell but I'm really new at this.
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We can all like more than one person at a time. Once, when I was a sophomore in high school, I'm pretty sure I crushed on like, five people at the same time.
Rough year, man. Rough year.
You can't really like someone until you know them, I think. You can be attracted to someone but I feel those are different things.
How much is too much depends on you and the other person. My advice is to hang out with them as much as you can. Find out their likes and dislikes! Find out what you two share in common. Watch movies, go somewhere nice to eat, find out what kind of activities they like to see if they match up yours!
If you let everything develop like, organically BIG WORD, snaps for Phoebe and don't force anything, you'll know if you really like them.
And hey, even those of us that aren't new to it still stumble around a lot of the time. Love and life are unpredictable that way! It makes for a lot of nerves but that's also what makes it all magical.
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Not that I know if I like this person or not. But I feel like it might be good for me to try and be with someone who's interested, you know? It might take my mind off you things. I think I could like her because she's really pretty cool, but she sort of dropped it on me really suddenly and I'm still trying to work it out. So I want to spend time, but not lead her on and stuff either, you know?
And that's really good advice, I think! I will try and figure out what kind of stuff she likes.
Other than coffee. I don't think you can really base a relationship around coffee.
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I do, but just make sure it's for the right reasons. There are other ways to keep your mind off stuff that doesn't involve liking someone. And it's a lot better if you don't try and it just comes easily, you know? That's what the whole thing is about! That spark that comes out of nowhere. But I'd try too, so I guess what you should keep in mind is this:
When it comes to feelings, honesty is always the best policy. It's really, really easy to find yourself tangled up in misunderstandings. As long as you're both clear on what you're both looking for, it should be fine!
Baw, I don't drink coffee. People say I shouldn't since I'm already a ball of energy as it is.
But I see your point!
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There is no filter here!
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Actually, I think my comprehension would be better.
I'm one of those hands-on learners.
It's why high school was so hard for me. Very little use for the hands.
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You need a hands-on demonstration.
We will make sure all your questions are answered personally, Xander.
Oh, I know all about hard. ;)
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EVERYONE.
Phoebe advice is of the good and helpful.
XANDER-APPROVED.
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MY DUTY.
I AM HAPPY I HAVE YOUR APPROVAL.
You are my orgasm buddy, after all. :D
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Once a month is all they get.
You are the best orgasm buddy, Pheebs. You have all the approval from this corner. :)
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For future gift purposes, what more can you give to such a- to him?
Like is there anything that goes above and beyond the whole lingerie thing and then the role playing thing? I wore a nurse's outfit. I wanted to ask you about it before I did it to help with like what I could say, but I got too embarrassed. Um. Anyway.
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Lizzie.
Take it from me, who's had a lot of experience.
Guys never get tired of the role playing or lingerie.
If you really want to try something new, though, go for the trenchcoat!
Guys. Love. The. Trenchcoat.
Wear a trenchcoat, nothing underneath, and really high heels. Just take it off in front of him and he'll think it's the best gift ever.
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I do like to do new things, but I am not really good at coming up with them! Last time I searched on google, and I am SO NEVER GOING THERE AGAIN.
Phoebe > google!
I am studying math right now which is the only reason why I remember what that symbol means.
I can't wait to try that! Thank you! :D!
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It's not just the gift.
It's the gift giver!
If he loves you, he'll love whatever you give him, because it comes from you.
So don't stress too much about what you're getting him, just make sure it's with a lot of love and you're set~
Eep, good luck with studying math. If you need breaks let me know and we can...talk about anything that isn't math, ew.
YOU ARE VERY WELCOME.
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Obviously!
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Awesomeness.
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She really knows a lot. I mean, I don't think you need qualifications or anything if you just happen to be good at advice!
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