Dear livejournal....

[the_troubles]

I have a question and maybe you can help.
My co-workers and I were discussing which is ruder, guests who don't clean up after themselves at a party/ dinner event, or hosts who expect guests to clean up after themselves/ other guests.
Can you settle this for me?

Thanks!
Signed, wondering.

Comments

[aztec_mummy]

The latter. As a guest, I don't really expect to clean up after myself.

[mybiznass]

at a dinner event i would never expect to clean up after myself. i wouldn't make a big mess or anything but i think that's really wierd for a host to expect their guests to clean up after themselves! ha ha

[the_troubles]

me too! I mean, call me crazy, but when I look at a big mess after a party, I take it as though people had a really good time and that the party was a success. Plus, how difficult is it to wash a few dishes or recycle a few bottles? I don't want my guests doing that when they could be having a good time chatting...
I would NEVER EVER dream of allowing my guests to clean up! but apparently that's just me...people have different ideas of what "manners" are I guess.

[ex_haughtym]

all that is true, but i've also been to parties where people think it's ok to make a mess for no other reason than 'it's not my house.'

[the_troubles]

good point, I knew people like that too. Hopefully we are at an age when those people have either outgrown their immaturity, or they are just not invited to functions any more.

[ex_haughtym]

if it's a dinner party and i'm a guest i'll usually try to do the dishes or help with dishes and cleaning up the table and stuff, or if i'm the last one at a party i'll put together some beer bottles maybe, but i don't think any of should be expected by host or guest, and i'd never expect anyone to do so in my house.

[brokensound01]

Agreed.

[moonshine_baby]

Also agreed. I usually try to help at someone else's house, but I feel guilty when people do dishes when Im having a party.

[anonymous]

whichever situation means that I don't have to do any cleaning.

[italic_caesar]

Sorry, that was me... in case that wasn't obvious

[the_troubles]

ha ha, a comment by a lazy person? always topher

[freakyfranklyne]

I have a present for you! or at least i should soon.