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[the_dark_snack]

OK, this week's LJ Idol topic is open so that I can write about anything I choose. It's also a do or die week as my entry this week will determine whether or not I make the top 10. Since I do better on week's where I really get out there and reveal myself, I figured I need to really put some things out there in order to challenge myself and find

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[beldar]

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[spydielives]

A Brave Post.

Thank you for sharing.

[veronica_rich]

My therapist's bright idea was that I somehow deserved this because I was fat and that until I lost weight, I should learn how to deal with this abuse.Wow. Suddenly my mom's "lame" advice when I was 9 to "just ignore them and they'll leave you alone" looks a LOT more sensible than going to this extreme. (I mean lame back then, not in retrospect - I mean, it worked then

[lemurjoe]

Having surived emotional and physical abuse and seen my mother and aunts go through it, I'll tell you why they/I stayed. You're raised from teeny tiny to belive that it's their right in life to treat you that way. You can't assert your self worth because you've never been allowed to develop any. Your flight or fight instinct has been abused out of you before you even knew you had one.
I was lucky, my mom tried to break the cycle with me and my sister. We grew up knowing we didn't have t ostand for guys beating us up, but when it came to emotional abuse, well the family take on that was "he's a good catch, he doesn't hit you."

[veronica_rich]

I'm sorry you had to go through that ... and I know something of what it's like. I did too, though, from the time I was a toddler until I was in elementary school - verbal and watching physical occur close to me. Rather than making me think I had to take it, it pushed me in the other direction. I decided long ago I'd rather go down with a fight than live with that kind of treatment, to the point where I've called cops on beating neighbors and stood there glaring at them as they were hauled out and off to jail. (And when he got out of jail later and came around the complex to clear out his stuff, he didn't try a thing - he just steered clear of me. Bullies realize when you've got their number, as cliched as it sounds.)

But then, I'm willing to admit I might just be Super Bitch and kind of mean for a girl. *G*

[defixione]

Yet another reason I detest psychologists and other sorts of "counselors". I just wonder how people like that "therapist" sleep at night.

Anyway, I guess I know what it's like to go through some messed up situations. Although my trials haven't been quite that destructive or damaging.

In the end, it makes no difference to me. Luvs ya, Snack!

[lemurjoe]

While my life hasn't been as bad as yours, I know what you mean about wanting to keep it all under your own control. Hang in there and know that there are people who understand and support you.